There is so much backstory...so I'm going to try to sum up as much as possible. Sorry if this is long! My DH has a daughter that is grown and has children of her own. She is a user to every extent of the word. Currently she does not work and her boyfriend barely works. So, so gets ALL her bills paid by his ex wife (NOT her mother). But, prior to that, she mooched money off us until we were used up. All the while talking about how bad of a person his ex was, and she'd never allow his ex around her kids...etc. But, as soon as our extra cash is gone...and set back in our OWN bills...now her and the ex are best friends and I'M the piece of shit who took her father from them...etc.etc.etc. She's one of those kids who only calls or comes around when she wants money...or bday gifts.
And, now, she's back to trying to get him to leave me and get back with this ex...again SHE'S NOT EVEN HER MOTHER.
Plus, she gives us shit because my children arent his, so how dare he love them....but his ex can be her "mom" and "grandma" to her kids? And her BOYFRIEND is not her oldest childs father...but he's allowed to be her dad!!
Anyways, so for years thats how the "relationship" has gone. She's fine with us around Christmas, and her bday....but the rest of the year she's nasty to us. So, when DH told her we were getting married of course all hell broke lose. We had to elope instead of having our families there because she was threatening to destroy the wedding. Then, she sends me a message calling me all kinds of nasty names, and just being hurtful. All this is immature high school drama that I've learned to ignore and breaks my heart because I've tried so hard to build a relationship with her. And WE HAVE! A FEW TIMES...until I'm out of money again. He sees the games, and for the most part, doesn't allow it. He goes through months at a time where they dont speak because of her disrespect. But, the part I cant get over....she called my children "bastard ass kids". I CANT let that go. I CANT let what she said to him about his parents who are passed away go. I cant get over threats to our wedding. I cant get over the CONSTANT attepmts from her and his ex to break us up and destroy our lives. So, of course, shortly after our wedding was our grandchilds bday....so of course she calls him so he'll go to the party. And now...even though she never appologized, and still plays her bullshit games, and gives nasty looks TO MY CHILDREN, he's fine with her and I'm supposed to be too. Just because she called him....HE DIDNT EVEN TALK TO HER...she left a message. No apology, nothing.
Am I wrong for feeling like I dont want to be around her, and I sure as hell dont want my children around her??? I love her kids...and would like for them to be a part of our lives. But her and his ex need to stay the f**k away from me and my children. But, am I wrong...because she is his kid?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:32 AM on Jun. 23, 2011 in Relationships
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