I will start out by saying that I do not like my son's girlfriend... but since she is having my grandchild I try to like her ( but I have ALWAYS been nice to her ) she even lived with me for about 6 months.
The main reason I do not like her is because she treats my son badly, it is obvious she tries to control him and she is just very possesive, I know it is also my sons fault for staying with her ( and making a baby with her) but still, I dont think any parent could say they like a person who would treat their child the way she does.
I have gotten the baby the majority of the things , besides a few outfits I have bought all of the clothes, I have bought the bedding, I bought the paint and border....
Now she is constantly sending me text messages and asking me WHEN ( not if ) will i buy the crib, carseat, playpen, and she also wants a high chair ( which i planned on buying around christmas, since the baby wont need it yet) ....
This is a 26 year old woman who has a job... my son also has a job ( and is 19).... when they first moved in together after she got pregnant the deal was that he would pay the rent and utilites and she would pay for food and the things for the baby ( diapers, formula, etc) ...
My son has told me that she has been buying alot of things, but nothing for the baby , and therefore now he is asking me if I could buy the things the baby needs because now he is worried that they wont have the things in time ( the baby is due in august).
The problem is, i am having money troubles, i cant buy all of those things... Of course I want to buy my grandaughter everything she could ever want and need, but it makes me so mad becuase her mother literally has EXTRA money, but is spending it on herself, and just expects me to buy the things for her child.
and now to top it off... I get a text today from her the said " are you going to throw me a baby shower or what ?"
Back after we found out she was having a girl, I started asking her about the babyshower... asking what kind of theme she wanted, where she wanted it, if her mom ( or step mom, or grandma) wanted to help too... and she kept telling me she didnt want to worry about the baby shower yet and she would have it closer to the time for the baby to come...
Then last month she told me and my daughter ( and these are her exact words) " I have so many people who are excited about the baby, so I am just going to have to have 4 different showers, one with you guys, one with my family, one with my work friends and one with regular friends" ...
She always talks about how she has sooooo many friends ( even though the ones I know, say they cant stand her) ... I think I am just going to tell her that since she has sooo many people who want to give her a shower then i will wait until the baby comes and throw a little party for her then that way we can see what she really needs.... or that i will wait until all the other parties are thrown and then I will throw her one...
I was satisfied with that until I realized that in reality none of those people are really going to throw her a babyshower... her family barely talks to her because of how she acts, she goes through "friends" like she goes through underwear, and I know her boss and they have said that they hope she doesnt come back after the baby is born.... and i know that if the baby comes without having a crib ( or bassinet) and definatly without a carseat... or if my son takes money away from the rent or utilities to buy those , which I know he probably will if he has to... that will make me feel worse........what would you do ?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:24 PM on Jun. 23, 2011 in Parenting Debate
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