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Would you accept deadbeat dad?

A couple days ago I got a friend request from my "father". This is a man who didn't come to the hospital when I was born. Showed up once a year usually Christmas to bring me a toy or my birthday. When I was 17 my cousin who is just a couple years younger than my mom told me it wasn't all my dads fault, my mom kept him away. So I decided to give him a chance to be in my life. That didn't work. He just wanted my mom back and didn't give a shit about me. He showed up again when I was pregnant with DD. Said he wasn't ready to be a grandpa. Ha. He has met my DD once because he showed up at my grandmas while DD was there. I was pregnant with DS at the time. This was two years later. Now he wants to friend request me?

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Asked by Anonymous at 2:40 PM on Jun. 23, 2011 in Relationships

Answers (9)
  • Heck no!! Sounds like he just wants to know whats going on in your life!

    Answer by SuperrMommyy at 2:41 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

  • Nope, burn me once shame on you, burn me twice shame on me.
    He had his chance. He has to work harder than a friend request. REally?! He wants to be your friend?

    Answer by Jademom07 at 2:42 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

  • I wouldn't

    Answer by monstersmommy20 at 2:48 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

  • Ignore.

    Answer by gdiamante at 2:58 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

  • Please don't. Nothing good will come of it.

    Answer by Sithpadawans at 2:59 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

  • decline and block.

    Answer by danichaos at 3:35 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

  • I would just ignore it.

    Answer by ria7 at 3:46 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

  • Decline

    Answer by marine_wife0520 at 4:06 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

  • I would ignore for right now, and msg his inbox and tell him your feelings. see what he has to say. While I am not a fan of deadbeats, your old enough to explain your true feelings. He should be mature enough to understand. If he underatnds maybe give him a chance. But wiht the understanding that if anything was d or what not he was gone.

    Answer by kgrine at 7:20 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

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