So my kids (3 of them) called from my ex's house, they have been there for 2 days. My ex is remarried to a woman with 4 kids (only 3 are there, one is grown) and they have 2 together, all the kids are there and will be for the next 4 weeks. Meaning there are 8 children in a 2 bedroom apartment. His wife doesn't have custody of 2 of her children (only her 15 year old DD) so the other 2 are only there 6 weeks a year which is why they only have 2 bedrooms. So apparently, the sleeping arrangements are: my 2 girls ages 14 and 11 and sleeping in the room that is usually used by the 2 they have together and her 15 year old (they are twin 5 year olds) with her 15 year old. So my girls are on the floor (since the 15 is in a twin bed and the twins have bunk beds, there is not even room to put a blow up mattress. Then my son is out in the living room with her sons. My son is 7, her's are 13 and 17. Since her's are older and are there longer, one gets the fold out couch while the other gets the recliner while my son is on the floor. My kids are very upset because there is just no room and also they are the only ones on the floor. I called my lawyer to see if I could legally do anything for them (insist on at least a blow up mattress was my idea). He told me that my ex is legally required to provide some kind of bed for them and also that 5 children in one bedroom is against DCF's regulations. He advised me to send my ex an email about this, to see if that would fix the problem. I sent him an e-mail telling him the kids are upset about being on the floor and that especially since 2 of them have scoliosis, them sleeping on the floor for 4 weeks could really hurt their backs. He told me if I didn't like it, call DCF. I think I might as, according to my lawyer, they would give him 48 hours to provide beds for them at least or they will be sent to their custodial parent's homes (IDK if they will do anything about the apartment being so overcrowded). I am not terribly picky, last year, they moved the twins in with them and my DD's used the twin's beds and my son slept on another recliner in the living room, that they have since gotten rid of. Still, it was overcrowded but I just told them to make the best of it but now, with 8 children and 2 adults and my 3 are the only ones without a bed or something like a bed to sleep on, that is just crazy. Would you contact DCF knowing that they have the authority to fix the problem?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:52 PM on Jun. 23, 2011 in Parenting Debate
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Answer by happymama02 at 3:06 PM on Jun. 23, 2011
don't contact CPS... there goes the jump to the aw crap, how about talking to him/them like an adult, maybe they cant fit 3 more beds in there, come up with a pan like exchanging 2 beds for bunk beds...etc. There are other ways to deal with things rather than waste the states time and money on things not worth calling on, believe it or not there are kids who actually need help.... sorry but SOOOOO tired of the cps shit!
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