My 13 year old ds just started asking serious questions about his dad (he's been out of the picture for 13 years..left me when I was pregnant with ds and I haven't heard from him since) not just questions like where is he, he stopped asking those long ago, but serious questions like his address/phone number. I could give him his name and last known address/phone number but I'm afraid my ds will just be disappointed. I know he should at least have the chance to know his father but I'm not sure he's ready to handle this. I feel like I'm asking a kid to deal with an adult situation. Not only that, but I'm not sure he could handle the disappointment if he were to actually contact his father and if his father were to reject him (again). I feel like I should wait til he's 18 to give him the info he's lookin for but what if my ds resents me for waiting so long? Just don't know how to handle this one..Answer Question
Answer by onethentwins at 9:38 PM on Jun. 23, 2011
I think he is to young to understand the hurt your ex could cause. If he does contact your ex and the ex is open to the idea of meeting your son, is the ex someone YOU want involved in your sons life. Would he be a good mentor(probably not) . If he rejects your son it will just add to the pain he is already feeling not to mention he is just starting his teens and there is a lot of puberty left to handle. IMHO you should tell your son you will discuss it with him at 18 and possibly go to family therapy a couple times to help him understand that your ex is the reject not him. BTW I have been the situation myself.
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