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I think my husband.....

Doesnt like our baby =( he never spends time with her unless i tell him to when he comes home from work he kisses me but he doesnt kiss her im sooo sad idk what to do about it when I bring it but he gets upset but doesnt change........like I asked him to watch her while I took a shower I come back she just sitting around and hes playing the game ( I know he loves her of course he always takes her to the zoo or the park etc but never without me)

HBU? do you have to deal with this what are your feelings....?

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KColeman90

Asked by KColeman90 at 10:02 PM on Jun. 23, 2011 in Relationships

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  • idk... i know my DH didnt like our son until recently... he cried all the time and wouldnt sleep through the night. but once my son settled down my DH likes to spend more time with him and likes him alot more.
    BethLinton

    Answer by BethLinton at 10:04 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

  • My XH didn't have much to do with our DD until she was around 2 and could walk and interact with him. I think that he just didn't know what to do with her until she seemed like a real interactive human rather than a crying baby that he couldn't figure out how to care for her...she didn't come with instructions.
    Jademom07

    Answer by Jademom07 at 10:06 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

  • Honey they dont adapt like women (most). They dont spend 9 months with it in our body. I'm sure he loves her, he's probably just afraid of her in a way right now. He'll come around ;) *hugs*
    sugamama3

    Answer by sugamama3 at 10:07 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

  • I don't think this is all that unusual for men, particularly if they haven't spent a lot of time around babies. Give him some time and don't pressure him. Have you tried sitting together with you holding the baby kinda on him? Do you specifically ask him to hold her, feed her, burp her? With our first child, I had to specifically ask my DH to do things the first few weeks. I think guys can feel especially unnecessary if you are breast feeding. It really just sounds like he doesn't know what to do. So, give him some ways to interact with her without being critical.
    momofkids

    Answer by momofkids at 10:20 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

  • Our dd is 15 months old
    KColeman90

    Comment by KColeman90 (original poster) at 10:25 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

  • Maybe he's not use to being around young babies, esp. girls. and he'll be better as she gets running around more. Some men just do better w/boys than they do girls and hopefully he'll chg as she gets a little bigger.
    MyAngel003

    Answer by MyAngel003 at 11:01 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

  • Oh he has had time with babies his siblings are 15, 12, 7 and 4 and hes 21
    KColeman90

    Comment by KColeman90 (original poster) at 11:16 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

  • Wait until she can talk and is interactive. my Hubby just looked at my friends child and ran the other way. Now that my friends daughter can interact he's great with her. Unfortunatly because our daughter is 5 mos. he runs the other way unless I hand her to him and leave the room. He doesnt wait very long to put her down either.
    katmiksits86

    Answer by katmiksits86 at 11:45 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

  • Babies to a guy should be ignored unless crying... at least that's how my Dh acted..
    Flippindadaisie

    Answer by Flippindadaisie at 10:22 AM on Jun. 24, 2011

  • I think he's probably just insecure around her.
    1smartcookie

    Answer by 1smartcookie at 12:57 PM on Jun. 24, 2011

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