One of the best books on marital relationships I have ever read is "Love is a Decision" by Gary Smalley. It is a great book! Give it a try. He's a Christian author, but his method would work for non-Christians as well.
One tip he says is, whatever you'd like your husband to BE, start praising him for any little step he takes towards the ultimate goal. This is basic, and even works for kids to a lesser degree.The trick is to keep it subtle. For instance, if you wish your DH were more romantic, then if he does some tiny little thing that might be romantic, you say,"Oh, that is so sweet! I just love how romantic you are!" HE feels great, and he's going to want to feel great again. Next time he's thinking about something, he'll remember that you love romance, and he might bring you flowers or chocolates.
So, if you wish he were a little neater, you praise him if he put a dirty dish in the sink, or put his socks in the hamper
at 11:24 PM on Jun. 23, 2011