I was diagnosed with HPV related cervical cancer last year and had to under go a cervical cone biopsy. This Biopsy might as well have been called a cervix remover that would leave me with less than 30% of my cervix. (and who says a cheating husband can't kill you even years after a divorce?)
Anyway- My now DH and I have been wanting a baby and both have come to the conclusion that it just isn't going to happen after many, many months of trying. He had an accident as a teen that caused damage to his testicles and my cancer removal has made our odds very low. Being a low income family we can afford to have our own child, just not inverto, a surragant (sp?) or adoption.
Now, it seems like everyone I know is either pregnant or has a new baby under a year old and it's just making me angry! Example: DH and I would LOVE a baby and now I have a friend who "after one too many drinks one thing to another" ended up with a positive pregnancy test and swears she isn't sure she wants to keep the baby or who the father is (she is prochoice and I am prolife unless it will kill someone). I am just so angry that someone who had an "accident" ended up pregnant, yet, two people who really want kids can't have them!
I know this is normal and that there are other couples who have this same kind of problem.. how do they deal with this and not be angry all the time with others who are so careless or aren't thrilled at the idea of a baby? I'm not angry with my friend who are super excited about their soon to be child, only jealous and being jealous I can live with, it's the anger that is killing me!
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The angry, wishful woman
Asked by Anonymous at 7:27 AM on Jun. 24, 2011 in Trying to Conceive
I understand how frustrated you are. I have been wanting to have another child but DH is not ready. At the same time my so-called "friend" is getting ready to give birth and all she talks about is her pregnancy and the baby. But when I was pregnant she was so jealous and made it abundantly clear that she did not want to hear about anything I had to say. I'm sorry it's been such a struggle for you. I also contracted HPV from my husband, but he didn't cheat. It was devastating because I was a virgin and he's the only partner I've had. I felt like my body had been sullied and have had a difficult time getting over the resentment.
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Answer by caramelH at 8:26 AM on Jun. 24, 2011
Maybe your friend who is pregnant and is not sure if she wants her baby would considered letting you adopt the baby. I feel sorry for you and I know that it is hard. I lost my baby when he was 27 days old from sids and my friend is currently pregnant with an oops baby and she still is not all the excited about it. Her husband is but she is not. I know that she will love her child no matter what but I want to know why when I wanted my baby so much I lost him and she is having a baby and she didn't even want one. I love my friend however, we have been friends for over 25 years, so I will be there for her like she was there for me when I lost my son. Good Luck to you.
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