I realize that this is one of those stupid frustrating things that could probably be somewhat fixed by opening up my face and talking about it in the general direction of The Husband Person when he's not brain-deep in some ultra-fascinating almost magically complicated XBox 360 game, but I'm pretty darn sure I'm not the only person out there who both has this issue and a reticence to discuss it in a properly logical fashion.
For the last decade, I have been the micromanager of our sex life. Back before we had kids, I was the initiator. When we started having kids, I was the scheduler and initiator. I'm also the "event planner", if you catch my drift. So a few months ago, during a routine post-coital conversation I mentioned my roles as President, Vice President, Secretary and Treasurer in the government of our sex life and suggested that it might be nice to have a vacation from that and let him have a go. "Okee dokey then" was his response to that. And that was the last time we had sex, seriously.
I'm not completely stupid, I realize that after a decade of not having to think about any of that, I can't expect a complete 180 on the exchange of a single brace of sentences. I would have thought that the ebb and flow of hormones would have served as a Post-It note reminder of sorts, alas, my husband doesn't read the Post-It notes his hormones leave him any more than he reads the ones I leave him.
Eventually, this situation will resolve itself one way or another, I know that. The reason I wrote this was to
A) Share the story
B) Ask if anyone is the primary motivator of your sex life?
C) If so, do you enjoy that role or are you tired of it?
D) Ask if anyone has a funny way for me to point this out to my husband? Like a prank or a joke or something.
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