My husband and I bought our first house back in 2005, I was only 19 and he was 22. We got married just a 4 months prior and got to enjoy our married life for about 6 months - that's when my brother moved in. He is DH's age, going to be 30 next March, and he's still living with us!!!
I told him back in December that I wanted him out by July. His response was, "Why?" Really!? He shouldn't have wanted to live with us for the past 6 years! He should WANT to be out on his own by July!
He works part-time, barely, delivering pizzas, and has barely looked for a full-time job even after I've given him a deadline. It's now June 24th, and I KNOW he won't have a full-time job by July 1st, which means, he will be asking me if he can live with us longer.
How do I handle this? He's my big brother and I love him, but I'm really tired of our family not having a house to ourselves. I feel like it's sink or swim time and either way, I should just kick him out come July 1st. Is this too harsh? What do I tell him? I'm torn...I hate to see him struggle, but he really needs to learn how to stand on his own two feet...
Asked by Anonymous at 10:27 AM on Jun. 24, 2011 in Relationships
if you always provide him with an easy way of life he is going to take it if you would cut the strings it will allow him to get his own life out of necessity and maybe once he has it he will enjoy it. but yes you need to kick him out he is far to old for that if he wants roommates thats great tell him to look on craigslist.
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