My mom got pregnant with me at 18. Her and my sperm donor got married. They were in love and actually planned on getting prego. Well, SD ends up being a complete control freak and has major jealously issues. My mom leaves him when I'm about 1 and raises me on her own. Zero help in any way from him.
Along the way my mom meets my stepdad. They fall in love and have a wedding. I now have a step sister(14) and a half brother(7). We're a happy little family.
Found out LAST NIGHT...... my mom and sperm donor never got divorced and her and stepdad are not legally married. I am almost 23 btw.
HOLY CRAP. Lol
She tried to divorce the SD when I was 8, but they couldn't find him. He lives a low-profile life, didn't want to be sued for child support. My mom also didn't want this guy getting any type of rights to me. Another reason is it costs money to get divorced and that's not somethng my parents have alot of.
How would you react if you got this news?
I'll explain my reaction in the answers later.
Answer by lizmartinez at 6:21 PM on Jun. 24, 2011
Answer by treynlisa at 12:47 PM on Jun. 24, 2011
Answer by fiatpax at 12:52 PM on Jun. 24, 2011
Answer by YerMami24 at 12:47 PM on Jun. 24, 2011
Answer by cheekycherub at 2:31 PM on Jun. 24, 2011
Answer by onix at 12:47 PM on Jun. 24, 2011
I think my reaction would be along the lines of "okay, doesn't really affect anything".. In my way of thinking, it really wouldn't matter. It's not some revelation that would cause me any concern, questions, pain, anger..etc.. Whether or not my mother was still legally married to my bio father would not change my life, my family, the lives/love/pain/joy that we (myself, my mother, my stepdad, 1/2 sibs) have had together.
It would be a total non issue to me personally. I'm like FiatPax, I too am older(49) and thinking about all I have experienced/seen in life and looking at the big picture of life this really wouldn't be a big deal to me.
Answer by pixie_trix at 2:44 PM on Jun. 24, 2011
Answer by tasches at 4:56 PM on Jun. 24, 2011