My ex-husband and I had a rocky marriage that hit rock bottom when our second child was still just an infant - he repeatedly cheated on me and finally left for another woman, a woman who threw it in my face that he left me for her. He completely abandoned our children for nearly a year, even when he did start to show a interest in being a father he only wanted to spend time with our older child. It's been 4 years now - he is a father to both our children now, most of the time we get along fine though it seems every few months he pulls some kind of shit with me and tries using our kids against me. For years I absolutely hated his girlfriend - she verbally and emotionally abused my children and was also abusive to my ex in front of my kids.
However over the last year I've noticed a big change in my ex's girlfriend - she hasn't abusive in any way to my kids, according to my ex she isn't abusive towards him either. For the most part I get along with her now too even though I still don't forgive her for the past. My ex and his girlfriend have a 2 year old daughter who I've babysat for many times and my family has become attached to her - my mom, brother, aunt and my few close cousins all treat her like family. My ex and his girlfriend are expecting their second child together in August, another girl, and today I got a message from her - she and my ex were discussing what would happen to their two kids if they both die...her father isn't in the picture, she doesn't want her mother to raise the kids, my ex-MIL is schizophrenic and was extremely abusive to my ex and his two brothers when they were growing up and his dad does whatever his mom says so his parents are out too. She asked me if I would take the kids if they were to die, she wants me to think about it and let her know. I'm shocked and honestly don't know if I should.
Asked by Anonymous at 6:21 PM on Jun. 24, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by lambdarose at 6:33 PM on Jun. 24, 2011
I would say yes, the kids have nothing to do with what happened between the adults & they are your children's half sisters so I would take them in if there is no one that can raise them if god forbid their parents passed away, I rather them be with me then in a foster home. Say yes =)
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