I have never seen so many Moms in one place(not everyone, but many--so if the shoe fits, wear it) who are raising up children and who have the worst of negative attitudes, foul-mouths, horrible manners and morals too. I feel sorry for your children. I realize that children can turn out differently than their parents but to be sure...why not just give them something to look up to in the beginning. Why not make it easier for them along the way? Children tend to take away some of your habits so give them good ones.
I see alot of awesome moms on here. Learn something from them instead of bashing them!
Can't you try harder to give your child the best chance possible in life? When they grow up, having a 'woe-is-me attitude', a rotten attitude toward others and life in general, having a foul-mouth and having no manners and morals is putting your child(ren) at the bottom rung of the ladder to begin their lives, whether it's in school or when they graduate and go on to college or get out into the workforce. Can't you give them the things that people look up to in life? You can preach ""don't judge"" me or others all you want to, but believe me, the people who will be their uppers in life *will* judge them to some degree, always. It's how they find the best of the best. They do not want the worst of the worst. Whether it will be bosses or college professors or teachers in the future. So, please give them a fighting chance now.
I see mothers on here who can barely put a proper sentence together or spell. I know people have an occasional spelling error but...we've ALL had full educations in this country and there is just no excuse for what I'm seeing. I'm not talking about 1 out of 1,000...I'm talking about the ones I see over and over.
Is this what you want for your child? To start life with all the worst to grow up with? Take a look at yourself and try to be something your child can and will be very proud of in the future.When they become teenagers, they themselves will begin to notice things about you and even judge you based on what they see in people they have learned to look up too. I personally, know kids who are embarrassed of their parents. Expecting everyone to just accept you as you are is not being 'realistic' when it comes to getting ahead in life. People who get ahead do not like or associate with losers, so don't fit in a loser category. Try to be the best you can be.
Look your child in the eyes today (deeply) and tell them that you want them to have all the benefits that you and life has to offer them and do yourself and your child(ren) a favor and shape up to something very respectable that your child will look up to.
In fact, most of you gripe and compain about your dh/so not respecting you, not interested in you anymore, not this, not that. Would you be? Maybe they see it too! Men do not look up to women like this. Even if they themselves act this way and have these flaws, they do not expect or want YOU to be this way. They just DON'T.
Don't help your child to be an "under-achiever". Step up in the world and better yourself to give your child every wonderful chance!
Asked by Anonymous at 8:38 AM on Jun. 25, 2011 in General Parenting
I wouldn't be so judgemental, everyone may not be as fortunate as you.....
Answer by skittles1108 at 8:56 AM on Jun. 25, 2011
Answer by SabrenaLeigh at 8:46 AM on Jun. 25, 2011
You stated your opinion clearly. Now you have to realize not everyone has a good life growing up. Many do not get the education you mention. I do not complain about dh here, but I am sure some of the women who visit this site have no other type of adult interaction. Where do you suggest they release? Must they hold it in? I am sure you have had the occasional vent. Why is it not ok for others? I do not JUDGE parenting on spelling or grammar. Life is too complicated to judge on something so petty.
Answer by pookiekins34 at 9:20 AM on Jun. 25, 2011
Answer by lambdarose at 8:59 AM on Jun. 25, 2011
Answer by attap5 at 9:18 AM on Jun. 25, 2011
Answer by treynlisa at 8:43 AM on Jun. 25, 2011
I am dyslexic no excuse sometimes spell check does not help me. Yes I have a potty mouth but I am in college and graduate in a year. My son is an awesome young man because I went out of my way to make it so. Is this the best I can offer him no but I learned from them as well. There are some damn fine mommas on here not quite perfect but ready to share any advice or offer hugs when your down. Maybe even support or tell you your whack when you need to hear it. So not in perfect order it still helps someone and at the end of the day this is all that matters. Parenting takes place between the child and the parent who is to say what really goes on and who is to say we are doing it right? It just happen every day and in the end only they know.
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 9:04 AM on Jun. 25, 2011
Answer by zoejains_momma at 9:09 AM on Jun. 25, 2011
Answer by ambr2006 at 9:21 AM on Jun. 25, 2011
Answer by momavanessa at 9:15 AM on Jun. 25, 2011
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