My husband and I just got married but we've been together for almost 4 years. So he was with me while I was pregnant (he's not the father) so he's always been around. But lately, I feel like we aren't on the same page with disciplining her. I don't want to spank her but sometimes when she's really bad and really not listening she may get one. Well, lately he's been spanking her. Not like hard or anything. But just a few minutes ago she was in the bathroom on the counter washing her hands and he went in there I guess she was getting into something she shouldn't and he told her to stop and she wouldn't listen so he smacked her hand twice. Her hand is really red now :( I know he's trying to get her to learn. But lately since we just moved into our apartment, I think she is just still adjusting to everything. Us all living together and everything. And he's been yelling at her more and getting more impatient. I am NOT saying that I never do that because I do. And I am NOT saying he is abusive in any way. He is a really great dad. But I feel like we need to be more patient with her and try to help her in an effective way.
I don't know how to talk to him about this without sounding mean or putting it on him. And I don't know any good suggestive ways to help her listen better. Any suggestions? She is almost 3 by the way. And time-outs don't seem to work either =/
Asked by Anonymous at 1:28 PM on Jun. 25, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)
Answer by Kaid26 at 1:36 PM on Jun. 25, 2011
Answer by dancer at 1:39 PM on Jun. 25, 2011
Your just going to have to open up to him and tell him your concerns. You don't have to do it in an attacking way just explain to him that your guilty of it too but you feel like it's difficult on her, a new place and you all living together. Don't say it when something just happened but when it's just the two of you. She's pretty young, you can't expect much from an almost 3 yr. old, she's learning everyday and like you said, it's all new to her. You have to speak up for her, she can't do it! As far as making her mind, back up the timeouts or take her fav. toy away, it will work but you have to be consistent!
Answer by anichols1 at 1:45 PM on Jun. 25, 2011
Answer by Liz30355 at 3:58 PM on Jun. 25, 2011
Answer by SMG1120 at 4:46 PM on Jun. 25, 2011
Answer by scout_mom at 7:44 PM on Jun. 25, 2011
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