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I have a step son who will be four in april and is not potty trained yet. He lives with his BM and is with us every other weekend,some holidays,two weeks in June and two weeks in July. When we had him this past June for two weeks we started potty training him and by the end of the two weeks we had him in July he hardly ever had an accident and only had to wear pullups to bed.After we got back to having him every other weekend his BM would always send him over wearing diapers and one day my husband said something to her about it and she told him when she wants him potty trained she will do it and until then not to send him back to her in underwear but send him back to her in a diaper.He will be starting school in May and she plans to send him to a different school in a different town rather than the school she teaches at.

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mom2stepmom3

Asked by mom2stepmom3 at 12:02 AM on Dec. 14, 2008 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • wow... that;s sad.. poor kid... i don't even know what to say...
    VictinaG

    Answer by VictinaG at 12:08 AM on Dec. 14, 2008

  • Is she crazy?!
    aidenbentleymom

    Answer by aidenbentleymom at 12:19 AM on Dec. 14, 2008

  • thats a tough one, you are in a difficult position, i agree with you, by now he should not be in diapers. my only suggestion, is you have a good talk with hubby, if i were you i woulnt say anything directly to her. and encourage your husband to be firm with her and i would keep working on having him go to the bathroom and i would send him home in uderpants.
    just my opinions, i dont have a step child.
    Thalie

    Answer by Thalie at 11:41 AM on Dec. 14, 2008

  • Interesting...around here preschools won't take kids that age unless they are potty trained....

    It's a tough one...but I'd probably keep working with him. Build it up that he's a big boy, etc...if he WANTS to use the potty and she's not letting him...to me that's borderline emotional/mental abuse...
    TiccledBlue

    Answer by TiccledBlue at 5:53 AM on Dec. 15, 2008

  • Wait...she is a teacher? Or does she work at a daycare? Either way she should know better and it sounds like she is ignorant and just using her child as a weapon to use against you and your husband...quality parenting there!
    salexander

    Answer by salexander at 12:59 PM on Dec. 15, 2008

  • Yes she is a teacher. She is very lazy too when the kids come over we have to give the three year old a bath because hes usually dirty and his hair always stinks. Husband gets them every other weekend and for the day on Tuesday and we had his 3rd birthday party on a tuesday so all the family could be here and by the time we had cake and he opened presents it was time or them to go home and we didn't get to clean him up because BM said they couldn't stay any longer and she took them home well come Friday when we picked them up for the weekend he still had the icing in his hair.
    mom2stepmom3

    Answer by mom2stepmom3 at 3:24 PM on Dec. 16, 2008

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