I am posting anon because I know some family of mine does post here. Anyway I found out one of my husbands cousins who cant have kids is trying to adopt through social services. I applaud her and think she would make a good mom. The thing is her husband would not make a good father. I am scared to have him around my own kids sometimes. He shot himself in the foot playing with his gun not long ago. They lied to the worker doing the home visits and said the guns gone but we know better. He came over and pulled that thing out in front of my kids and set it on the table like nothing.
Anyway he has also beaten 2 dogs to death. One of my neices accidentally fell and made a mark on the TV (not his) and he was more concerned with the damage to the TV then her. He said he would have beaten that ass. Today we were all together talking and we got to talking about how funny kids are, you know they ask something and come back 5 minutes ask again thinking the answer will be different. Things like that. He said he would never have that problem with his kid, because hes simply going to beat its ass until it learns. No one knew what to say? I dont spank my own kids, and even those there who do pop from time to time were like uh we dont even do that! Thats only for an extreme punishment.
I tried mentioning this to my mil and she claims he was raised in foster homes so probably knows better then I do about how to run one or make it nice for the kids. I did not know that about him but still. Kids are not allowed to even touch the remote at his house. He says he worked too hard for his things to have a bunch of brats touch it.
Should I call the social worker and voice my concern? Or stay out of it? I feel bad. I think my husbands cousin would be a good mom, but as long as she is married to this man I do not think they need a child.
Asked by Anonymous at 6:15 PM on Jun. 25, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by lucky35 at 6:33 PM on Jun. 25, 2011
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