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Would you leave your house just so your MIL could visit?

So my MIL's idea of the perfect visit (she won't visit DH or DD any other way) is she gets to our home and i have to leave till she leaves (i'm 5 months pregnant) i can't take the car because then i am stranding DH and DD without a safe car (hers has broken seatbelts in the back seat and she would insist on driving DD anyway) or her other perfect visit would be my DH and DD going to her home (nearly 3 hours away) and leaving me at home with no transportation (i'm borderline high risk) how many would leave to accommodate their MIL and keep the peace and how many would say go to hell

BTW she is threatening to take us to court for grandparents rights because we disagree with her rules......our state doesn't have GP rights

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Asked by krissii at 11:49 PM on Jun. 25, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Hell no girl and you should not have to bend over for her your the one who is pregnant she should stay home call her and tell what your stipulations are for the visit. this is your house and your family she should get over herself.

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 11:52 PM on Jun. 25, 2011

  • I'd tell her to go straight to hell.

    Answer by hopeandglory53 at 11:52 PM on Jun. 25, 2011

  • Oh and tell her there are no gp rights in your state and remind her you are the parent not her.

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 11:53 PM on Jun. 25, 2011

  • Your house...if she can't deal...then she can't see the kids...fuck that.

    Answer by monstersmommy20 at 11:54 PM on Jun. 25, 2011

  • The fact that your husband isn't standing up to his mother is speaking volumes.......seriously he needs to tell her to get over herself. Cut all contact with that selfish crazy witch.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:55 PM on Jun. 25, 2011

  • OMG she is something else.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:57 PM on Jun. 25, 2011

  • In your case I wouldn't leave. But dh needs to stick up for you here. Let her waste time and energy with a lawyer to find out she has no rights. And when she comes snuggle up with a book, watch a sappy movie, or take a nap.

    Answer by treynlisa at 11:58 PM on Jun. 25, 2011

  • HELL NO!!!!!!! absolutley not. 1st of all how could someone expect you to leave your own place of residence jus so they can come visit. Its either you stay, or she dont have to come over. Its your residence not hers. That's like you kicking her out of her own house and i bet she wouldnt do it for you!. Besides you say your state doesnt have grandparents laws so who gives a F*** Let her do as she pleases, just don't leave your house. If she want to see them that bad then SHE should adapt to having you around.

    Answer by LaddiPatrone at 12:00 AM on Jun. 26, 2011

  • HELL NO!!!! What does your DH say? And also if she would "insist" on taking the child with out seat belts wouldn't he say no? Even if your state did have grandparent's rights, she wouldn't get them if you told a judge that she refuses to be around the the if you are there. I would tell your DH that it's her or you, you shouldn't have to consider either one of these! What does she expect you to leave your newborn there as well? your MIL sounds like a rude, selfish person who has no business being around your family. I am so sorry you have to deal with this but I feel you just need to stand up for yourself, if your DH backs you, she will probably back down.

    Answer by JLS2388 at 12:04 AM on Jun. 26, 2011

  • Absolutely NOT! It is YOUR house, Your Rules. You can show her respect, because she is the mother of your DH. But you do not have to leave.
    I would suggest trying to build a better relationship with her. But you need to serious speak with your DH first. Explain that in a marriage, a man leaves his home and cleaves (joins) with his wife. That's just the way it is. That's the way to build a healthy, solid family. If he can't do that, then you and he need to get some couples therapy/counseling before it is too late.
    You and he need to list some basic house rules and post them, so that everybody knows them: both parents, babysitters, relatives, etc. Things like "no drinks of water after bedtime" or "must always be in his car seat when traveling".
    While your MIL is visiting, try your best to be patient. Smile, even if you feel like committing murder. Be nice, but do not let her run all over you. If she says something (cont)

    Answer by LoreleiSieja at 12:10 AM on Jun. 26, 2011

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