I'm a mom of 3 beautiful little girls, all under the age of 9. I'm not looking to become a grandma anytime in the next several years and am wondering what is the best way to prevent it. And I'm wanting more than the obvious answer of birth control, lol. I don't want to be their best friend, but I want to be able to talk to them about sex and not have them feel it's a dirty thing that you must keep secret. I guess what I want to know is how do you walk the line of explaining sex without encouraging it? I want them to wait as long as possible and for someone they really love. I'm also wondering what role my husband can have in this. Luckily we are still together and he is the father of all 3 girls. Did your moms work and did you feel they didn't make time for you?
I have so many questions and I'm afraid the time is fast approaching. My mom never talked to me about any of this and I've decided I don't want to do it that way with my girls. So any advice any of you can give me, teen moms or otherwise, I'd greatly appreciate it. Thanks!
Answer by kit_manson at 4:58 PM on Jun. 26, 2011
Answer by attap5 at 3:42 PM on Jun. 26, 2011
I could blame them for my getting pregnant at 15 but it was all my decision based on them just being parents. They thought my BF and I were too close and too serious. We made the mistake of saying that we wanted to get married when I graduated. Instead of leaving it alone, they freaked and made the stupid mistake that many parents make ... "We forbid you to see him." And the rest is history ...
I would just talk with your girls. Be open and honest about sex ... age appropriate so that they understand. That will lay the groundwork for when they get older and it becomes more important.
Answer by SpiritedWitch at 3:17 PM on Jun. 26, 2011
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Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 3:59 PM on Jun. 26, 2011
My mother NEVER talked to me or my sisters about sex. I had my first child a week before my 20th birthday. I was also married though. I was really afraid for my other sisters since one started having sex at 12. So I asked my father if I could have the talk with my youngest sister since we all know my mom would not. I hope that made a different in her life and she will wait to have sex.
Answer by momavanessa at 4:41 PM on Jun. 26, 2011
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