We had a visit with DD's BFamily (BMom, 1/2BBrothers, and BMom's parents) today. I told BMom and BGma at the last visit in April that DD was beginning to ask about her BDad so I wanted to get his information from them. They said they would look him up and give us everything at the June visit.
In texting back and forth with BMom regarding what to bring to the visit (picnic at lake), I reminded her about the BDad and again said DD has been asking about him.
Today at the visit, I asked and BMom and BGma exchanged looks and BGma said that last they heard he moved out of state to live with a girl he dated a couple of years ago. She said that no one seems to have any contact information on him, but they are trying. I asked BMom for his last name and, again after exchanging looks, BGma said "I think it's _____ or maybe it's ______." I looked over at BMom and said to her "You don't know his last name?" She just blankly looked at me and BGma chimed in something about it only being a one night stand.
So as we were getting ready to leave, BGma and I were folding up the table clothes and I told her that I hope it didn't seem like I was being pushy about the BDad, but DD is asking and I don't like only being able to give her a first name...pointing out that I'm not even sure we'd do visits or any contact, but just to have the information in case she wants it. She then starts talking about how he's out of state and she thinks his last name is ____ (different from the previous two) and that she thinks that is his mother's last name and may not even be his. Mind you, he and BGma worked together at the same farm every summer (last summer was their last year) and she has told me in the past about how his mother and entire family are drug users and how he was trying to get away from that kind of life and how she has told him all about DD and how we adopted her and she told me that he is okay with the situation...
So obviously I'm not believing them. Too many things just are not clicking. If I am getting the runaround now when DD is 5 years old saying they can't find the BDad, DD will certainly get it when she finally says something to BMom herself about wanting more info on him. Why are they not being honest? What right do they have to keep this information from her?!?!?!?
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