I have 2 kids with my ex, he hardly pays anything in child support ($385 for 2 kids) and keeps having more and more kids with his wife. My girls are 9 and 12 and he has been married to his wife for 8 years, he left me for someone else when I was pregnant with the 9 year old. They have 5 kids (not including mine) and I just found out she is pregnant again. Normally, this wouldn't be my concern at all but my ex is supposed to pay 50% of activities (up to $200 a month for both girls) and 50% of medical but because my ex hasn't been paying for any of it because he says he "doesn't have the money". As far as the medical is concerned, I have paid about $300 in the past year and my 12 year old will be need braces within the year as well. As far as activities, I pay $380 a month. I felt before like I was doing the nice thing by looking the other way about this but clearly, either they have more money then they are letting on or they just don't care and if they aren't going to be responsible in order to have more for their children, I am not going to give things up in order to pay his half of these things to help him. I feel like sending my ex an e-mail telling him I expect him to pay for his half of medical and activities. Bottom line, I feel why should I help him if he won't help himself? What do you think?
P.s. I don't feel like I am taking food from these other children or anything because they get WIC and food stamps. I even give them my DD's hand me downs for their 3 girls (granted they have been through 2 girls by the time they get them but they are still in better condition then anything else they have).
Asked by Anonymous at 7:04 PM on Jun. 26, 2011 in Parenting Debate
Answer by scout_mom at 7:16 PM on Jun. 26, 2011
Answer by Rosehawk at 7:16 PM on Jun. 26, 2011
Answer by attap5 at 7:22 PM on Jun. 26, 2011
Why are you so upset about your ex having kids with his wife... what they do is their business, and I personally think it is spiteful to now decide to make him do more because you are jealous of him having another kid with his wife... their business
Answer by Musicmom80 at 7:29 PM on Jun. 26, 2011
Answer by bcauseimthemom at 7:33 PM on Jun. 26, 2011