I am married to a man who has a little boy from a previous relationship, I have a daughter from a previous marriage ( he also passed away when she was 22 months ) ... and I am pregnant with our 3rd child.
Before I came into the picture my husband and my mother in law was raising him ( my husband works 12 - 14 hour days, so he spent alot of time at MILs) every once in awhile his birth mother would pop up for a 15 minute visit.. she has went to 3 or 4 of his birthday and has shown up around Christmas time twice.... and like I said, all of these visits were only about 15 mintues ( never longer than 30 mintues) .... she has always been aloud to see him and at one time encouraged to have a relationship with him... but by HER choice, she hasnt... and it is KNOWN that she drinks ALOT , and very likely into drugs. ( after suspecting drug use, is when she stopped being encouraged to come around) ....
Ok so since we have been together, I have been his mommy... I am the one who now takes care of him on an everyday basis, I put him to bed at night with a story, I make him breakfast and take him to school in the morning, I help him with homework in the evening, I take care of him when he is sick, I do everything a bio. mom should do... my daughter is his sister and we are a real family ....
Over the last 7 years she has never paid child support and now owes over $20,000 , our son hasnt seen her in 2 years ( last time was 15 minutes at his birthday party) ... his birthday is coming up and she out of the blue contacted MIl about the party details so she can come...
My husband then called her back and said that it is time for her to sign over her rights ( he didnt tell her, but it is so i can adopt him and have full legal rights, since it has caused some problems when trying to do things with him) ... and he told her he doesnt even remember her ( which he doesnt , he refers to her as Tisha, but actually her name is Tasha , and really just remembers nothing of her ) .... and that her showing up every once in awhile and calling herself mommy is just going to confuse him... so she gets mad and starts cussing, my husband then tells her she can either sign her rights over or he will report how much child support she owes and since ( we just found out ) she is on probation, she will go to jail... she said she would think about it and hung up.
starting the next day my facebook has been flooded by her family and friends calling us selfish monsters ( and that is the nicest names called ) ... asking me how would it feel if someone came and took my child , etc....
How is that being selfish or a monster or anything else bad... I am someone who is taking care of a child and I just want full legal rights to him , I never took him away from her... she herself left him in seven years she has seen him less than 7 times... how is that a mother ?
Asked by Anonymous at 9:44 PM on Jun. 26, 2011 in Relationships
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