The last year has been tough, relationship-wise. I had a high-risk pregnancy and a difficult recovery. The baby is now 10 weeks old. A month or so ago, my husband was diagnosed with Type II Diabetes and low testosterone and was put on Metformin and a series of testosterone injections, of which he has had two to date. The Metformin was making him nauseated, but some adjustment to the regimen and what he eats with it has helped (I'm a nurse, I know a number of tricks). My husband has also been doing really well about checking his sugar and exercising regularly.
The problem is, between the pregnancy, the recovery and all these medication problems, we haven't had sex in a year (literally, the last time was when I got pregnant with this last kid). And it seems like every time I want to plan a little "alone time", my husband tells me that he's either invited one or more of his friends over or is going out with his friends to see a movie or something. Well okay then, I understand that he's had a health scare, he may need some down time. Last night was the season premiere of True Blood. Now, that show is OUR show. I did some dolling up and I managed to get the baby down and the living room picked up, poured us a couple of glasses of wine and made a few filthy remarks, the general "You're gonna get some" fancy dance we all do. Then someone knocked on the door. It seems that my husband had invited one of his friends to watch the show and to stay and watch some Liam Neeson flick afterwards. I know my face showed some disappointment there. After True Blood, I just went to bed, but not before my husband asked me if I could handle the baby and the other kids so he and his friends could go see Green Lantern tonight. I said sure, but he could tell there was something wrong so I told him about trying to schedule "alone time" and it seeming like he'd prefer to do pretty much anything other than have sex with me. He said he was sorry. No explanation. Before someone mentions the low testosterone, the meds he's on and the diabetes, his condition isn't severe enough to cause ED, this I know for sure because I've seen his lab reports.
We have a great relationship in all other aspects, but when it comes to sex, it really seems as though he has no interest in me. And that is frustrating because I have been relatively direct with him, what else can I do?
Asked by Anonymous at 9:52 AM on Jun. 27, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by mlmkjw at 9:59 AM on Jun. 27, 2011
i sorry to hear that you have a hard time in the sex department, but trust me when i say DONT give him an ultimatum, cause that'll push him further away, i hope this doesn't weird you out, but try watching porn with him, and touching his body while watching it, that should get him in the mood and keep him there, and if that doesn't work then maybe you might have to consider other possibilities. i hope everything works out for you.
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