Ok. So I need impartial opinions on this matter. I'll try to make it sweet & simple. My husband has an almost 17 year old daughter from a previous marriage who lives mainly with her mom and comes over every other weekend. Lately, she's been feeling left out and ignored here and unwelcome no matter how we try to not make her feel that way. It's true my husband has been a little distant with her but not at all ignoring her. Finally, to clear the air, he called her out on "why" he's been distant and confronted her about all sorts of things he knew she was doing online and at home while her mom is not there.
Of course, she blew up, he told he's only concerned for her future and emotional well-being, he feels bad for snooping, but, at the same time he knew she was up to no good and feels he has to do what he needs to to keep her safe..its his duty as a father. My husband tried to work together with his daughter's mom, but, to no avail because she's in denial and she can't believe any of it regardless of the fact we have proof. She's standing by her daughter. In the end, his daughter said to him "I don't want to go to that house anymore and you are not my dad" and hung up on him.
I know she's upset obviously, my question is, should he reach out to her regardless and call her on a weekly basis or should he just respect her wish and leave her alone and just mail the child support check??? She's doing VERY wrong things yet he's a bad father for uncovering her...
Note: I kind of think he should ignore her because I'm tired of her making my husband out to look like he is such a bad father when he isn't. She has said that he verbally abuses her and that she almost sent him to jail the last time he spanked her..(which is true he spanked her for running away with a boy after numerous attempts to discipline her differently). She calls this place hell and I kid you not all we do is hang out, go to the park, go for frozen yogurt, the mall, chit chat, make dinner together....the girl has personality issues!!!
Asked by Anonymous at 12:14 PM on Jun. 27, 2011 in Teens (13-17)
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