when they get upset, do you comfort or try to be "tough"
My and DH apparently are not on the same page.
My son at 3-1/2 already has been diagnosed with Anxiety, both DH and myself have it and on both sides so its not that big of a shock, but DH also doesn't seem to want to do anything but be tough on him - i think that approach is too firm but then again, my approach of understanding and talking to him about those feelings, my dh thinks I am turning him in to a "baby" - he does get upset more than the average child and cries often so I can see my husbands point but both of us having anxiety, yelling or tough love to me, isn't going to make this better.. any one have any suggestions? I grew up in a loving home and DH's childhood was torture so we clearly look at certain things differently. Any one have good suggestions for sensitive children?
Answer by kimigogo at 4:52 PM on Jun. 27, 2011
My son is now 11 and he's always been sensitive. i too am like you and my husband sounds like yours! It has taken me years to make my husband understand that our son is who he is and him yelling at our son was not helping him any, it's not going to make him tougher by yelling or telling him to 'suck it up" and quit acting like a little girl! That used to tick me off so bad! Your son is young and his father might possibly be the reason for the anxiety. My husband now is finally seeing our son as his own person. He's not me and he's not my husband, he is who he is. There are sensitive men out there and your son may very well grow up to be one and that's not a bad thing! Even now at the age of 11, my son is the most caring little boy you'd ever wanna meet. Always helping others and a friend to everyone. Just talk to your husband, yelling never accomplishes anything! Good luck!
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