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We are moving about 20 miles away..

but I want to keep my son in his current day care near where we currently live. My parents live near his day care, and my mom has offered to keep my son (who is 3) a couple nights a week to eliminate my drive back and forth between our new place, his day car, and work. Technically I COULD drive the extra distance each day, but this would help A LOT and save a ton of money on gas, not to mention my old car already has several miles on it. I just can't bear the thought of dropping my son off, saying good night, and leaving him there on a regular basis. Having her baby sit is one thing but I'd feel like he isn't fully mine or something, kwim? I'm not concerned about him thinking he has "two mommies" or anything, I guess it just makes me feel like I'm not his sole provider and frankly, I'd just miss him. How would you feel? I know my feelings are valid, but should I do it anyway simply because it would be such a huge help? Also, it would give me and my husband a couple nights a week to just have "us" time which we could really use. But, I don't know I guess I feel like I'm neglecting my responsibilities as a mother.

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:20 AM on Jun. 28, 2011 in General Parenting

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  • I just couldn't do that myself, personally speaking. Having sleepovers at grandmas house occassionaly is awesome for the bonding, but he might begin to resent being there too much. Have you researched daycare where you're moving? I'm sure there's amazing daycares in your new location, plus he'll make new friends which he'll ultimately end up starting school with.

    Answer by Kathy675 at 1:46 AM on Jun. 28, 2011

  • Nope. No way. If it were ONE night, yes. More then that, no way.

    Answer by momof5kiki at 7:27 AM on Jun. 28, 2011

  • I would do it.

    Answer by CometGirl at 9:05 AM on Jun. 28, 2011

  • I don't think I could do it either. If I could afford to drive him all the time, I would.

    Answer by lovingmy4babies at 10:23 AM on Jun. 28, 2011

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