I cook , i clean i take care of my kids. but apparently not having dishes done right after dinner and taking care f my baby's needs is getting me into trouble around here. i buy the food, hubby has to push mow because they hide the keys to the riding mower because they do not want it broken. but the rider was bought for my mom who lives with us but she has not used it all year. she does not cook except for 2-4 meals a year. i do dishes. we live here do to financial circumstances i do not mind helping out. but she sits at the computer playing games all day. and tells everyone she does alot. i am the one dusting ,vaccuming , mopping etc. all the while dealing with my two girls who have medical stuff going on and my baby. if i go to my baby when she cries i am spoiling her according to them. they scream at my girls knowing full well they do not always understand. yes my room is a mess. when you shove 4 people in a room with dressers etc because you want to keep the other for junk it is not good. hubby is trying to get full time work so we can get out of here. i had some of my girls school papers on a desk i got yelled at but you should see all the junk they have on it and on the other desk. i have my girls counselors over here everyweek they see the house they told me for me doing it alone i do good but not according to father in law. even after i cleaned this weekend i got my butt chewed for it not being up to his standard. i had 2 books out for my kids to do for school and a folder with a behavior chart for my kids. if you were in my shoes would you have been upset to? i been throwing what few things i have in a tote and told hubby i want nothing for the holidays etc if we are still here because i am meant to be a second class citizen and i feel like a slave. yes i know i should clean up after myself,hubby and kids and i do clean up after us, and my kids and try to get them to help as they are old enough to. they threatened to make my youngest sleep in my vehicle to and i know what they were getting at , they were threatening to put us all out. he wants to throw my hubby out but he said if he does then he is throwing me and the 3 kids out to so i can divorce his son and get all the susposed help in the world. what kind of person does this? believe me we are trying to get on our feet and get out of here. I already deal with depression and was suicidal last night when they got done with us. i went and took my antidepressant and my hubby held me tight when when we went to sleep. i feel better today and not suicidal but once i leave here i think they may not see us or their grandkids again as i feel they cannot understand the grandkids medical conditions.
Asked by Anonymous at 5:40 AM on Jun. 28, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by Michigan-Mom74 at 6:09 AM on Jun. 28, 2011
>>>>and thinking about the person who is pissing off and imagining that is them I am punching the stuiffing out quite helpful!! Or screaming into into the pillow yelling cussing ect or the old fashioned hard cry until u r exhausted. As for the FIL, I think u and hubby need to have serious sit down and talk session big time. Airout the laundry so to speak and get everything that needs to be said on the table, leave it there and forget it and try to make the best out of a real f'ing frustrating situation. Maybe if u all get the complaints out or what not, maybe things will relax, and still have a good working relationship. I wish u the best of the luck and try to remember it won't be like this for long.Good Luck!
Answer by Michigan-Mom74 at 6:25 AM on Jun. 28, 2011
Answer by louise2 at 6:09 AM on Jun. 28, 2011
Have you ever thought of it their way. Even though they are allowing you all to stay with them. You are disrupting their lives. Disturbing their piece and their home. Them having to deal with 2 old kids and a baby in their house. And they are not use to dealing with on a daily basis. If your DH can not find a full time job. Maybe he needs to find another part time job. Sense you can not work because of the kids he needs to step up.
Answer by louise2 at 8:53 AM on Jun. 28, 2011