So this morning after SO went to work, I was tidying up the bedroom and we have a safe in the closet where we put certain valuables or memorable items. In it, he has a small photobook of pictures of his dad (he passed away a few years ago), and I noticed a ton of random photos stashed in the middle of it. So of course, I look to see what they are, and they're all pictures of him and his very serious ex who he was engaged with for 5 years before he met me. And I also saw in one of her bathing suit pictures on the beach that she has one of the SAME EXACT tattoos on SO in the same spot!! I don't know whether I should say something or not because it really bothers me that he wants to keep them, but I feel like I have no right to tell him that he can't...I don't know...what do you guys think??Answer Question
Answer by Dahis at 12:31 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
Answer by sugamama3 at 12:32 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
Personally the only pictures of an ex I keep are of my eldest son's father, he has a right to them, but people I dated... it is in the past for a reason! You do whatever you feel is best, but honesty/respect is a huge part of my husband and mine's lives and I would ask him, than again he wouldn't hide them from me in the first place... trust is a foundational thing with a relationship
Answer by MommaClark3 at 12:33 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
Answer by WeLuvOurNUGGET at 12:33 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
Answer by Bubbie0809 at 12:34 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
I've got our wedding album/video which I am not getting rid of. Difference is, my new DH has seen everything; no secrets. Red flag for me if I found HIDDEN pix of an ex. I'd say something.
Answer by 1smartcookie at 12:35 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
Answer by stephensmom26 at 12:35 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
Answer by sweetpea_mama at 12:36 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
I have a few photo booth pictures of me and my ex. They're buried in a box, in a bigger box, in the attic. I don't ever feel the need to look, but if I'm every rummaging thru that box (once every couple years) I'll take a glance and reminisce for a moment and move on. I don't dwell on that PAST relationship but I see nothing wrong with remembering since it's made me who I am and led me to where I am today.
Answer by Anonymous at 12:39 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
Answer by Sithpadawans at 12:39 PM on Jun. 28, 2011