Been with my BF for 2 years now (a little over).... when we first started dating, he was everything i wanted; a good man, respectable morals, etc. he wasnt rich, but he wasnt poor/in debt (minus student loans-- we're early to mid 20's)... but now? he is in debt. not just to me ($600), but his parents and grandmother. I think he paid off all his friends. he's barely making it by as it is and he has a semi-good job (he didnt graduate so he doesnt have a degree, but he makes $10/hr)... but he rarely has enough gas (asks me at least every other week), doesnt have a cell or home phone, just finally got the internet back on. i am somewhat understanding b/c i see the bills that he has to pay, but at the same time, i'm not looking at him as a boyfriend- a future husband... i'm looking at him like a son. DS asks for money whenever he wants/needs something... same with this 25 year old man.
Majority of the time, i dont mind it... even though we arent married, i like to view relationships as husband/wife... i'll help him when i can and he'd do the same for me... but damn! i just feel instead of giving him $xxx a month, it could be going towards DS, or the bank.. but since i'm not really struggling much (my income is $1,000 and my bills are less than half that), do i have the right to complain about it? whatever isnt bill/gas money (minus $50 for me and DS for whatever we want), the rest goes in the bank.
i do know my views on this relationship needs to change back to bf/gf and not husband and wife-- i mean, we dont even live together! lol
i just dont even know what to do to look at him like a man now, instead of a child. =( i KNOW what he's capable of- so i feel like i'm judging him based on finances which i dont want to, but how can i look at him like a man!?
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