Quick background: my stepdaughter has a lot of issues that I won't get into but we are dealing with them and she is seeing a therapist. Over the last month, she has increasingly refused to behave with me, do what I ask her etc. to the point of being out of control (but will do whatever Daddy says).
My bio dad, stepmom and sister are visiting this weekend, trying to re-connect after my lifetime of having no relationship. I am sending my stepdaughter to the babysitter (but not my daughter (same father) as she is 7 mos old and doesn't give me any major problems) while they are visiting, and we may go out to lunch.
My mother and husband feel I am being unfair to my stepdaughter, like I am shunning her. I don't feel that way at all! I love her to pieces, but I will not tolerate one more incident of hers in a public setting. I refuse to. Why is it wrong of me to want to be able to not have to worry about her being an unruly brat while trying to re-connect with family? (I will admit I am not looking forward to this visit, but if they are willing to try, then so am I.)
she is acting out because she believes you will not leave her. she needs to be shown that you love her, but not that she can do whatever she wants to you. i would start by talking to her about how she acts is disruptive, how you cant do fun stuff with her if she acts badly. then if you can, have her around until she starts acting out, then have her go to the sitters. If you cant do that, then have her be at the sitters the whole time. but be sure to exsplane why you are acting like you are. she my not get it right away, but over time she will understand.
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