I am curious about this ladies; so could use your opinion. A friend of mine...not a very close friend;but a friend I've known about a year was interested in dating a new guy so I was trying to be a good friend and told her possibly my husband could hook her up with someone. I have just been married for a month;so that's how the topic even came up. He's military and I remember her saying she was interested in military men...okay; I guess that's her "type" as she calls it so I was just being nice about telling her maybe he knew someone he could set her up with.Anyhow, I never thought much about it until she asked one day should she add him on facebook. Many of my friends are friends with him on facebook & I completely trust him so I said okay..even though she has a history of being very competitive w/others men I've heard; but I try not to judge anyone. Anyhow, the next night I went out with her for drinks & she pulls over her phone and says "look at the message he wrote me." OK. My heart kind of sank because I didn't know she'd be sending him messages...they were basic, like her saying "I heard u were the matchmaker" and him just asking "who said that?" and "whats ur type?" I immediatly told him I was uncomfortable with that,so he removed her as a friend there and that was the end of it. Was I being too crazy by not feeling okay with them sending messages? Of course I dont mind him having girls on there, im not that insecure; but I just dont feel okay with them sending messages;just as if I wouldnt want women texting him...especailly since he is deployed...unless it was strictly work related or such. Am I being too jealous? I don't think it is jealousy; I think I just don't want her disrespecting me. I mentioned it to her; and she said "Oh,it was just about the match making." I just felt she should go through me;as a married woman,rather than my husband who she doesn't even know and so on. Esp. since me and her aren't close or anything where i'd even really trust her much...there was even a time when another friend of ours was close with a guy and she accepted his dinner offer right in front of her;not caring if perhaps our friend liked the guy or not...she basically just violates friend codes I thought. Then,the next few days go by and I asked her if she'd like to go to an upcoming event;she said sure,then mentioned "maybe it was a good idea he deleted me." So obviously she was checking his page or something...no telling. I just think she didnt take our relationship seriously by doing this. We got married at a court house and are going to plan a real wedding when hes back from deployment and she was also supposed to be a bridesmaid...your opinion,please.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:34 PM on Jun. 28, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 9:42 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
well, my opinion is this. she was upfront with you and asked your permission for her to add him on facebook....she was upfront and even initiated sharing with you the messages they were sending (all pertaining to the specific topic you knew about...the topic that you brought up and volunteered your hubby for)....i'm not really sure what the advantage of her adding him to her facebook would be if they're not allowed to send messages. what would be the point? imo you are overreacting and if you didn't feel comfortable with her talking to hubby on facebook i'm not sure why you would give her permission to add him in the first place.
Answer by princessbeth79 at 8:39 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
not over a topic such as dating....
well isn't that what you volunteered your husband to do?? find a date for her?? how could he do that without communicating with her?? if you wanted to find her a date i'm not sure why you brought hubby into it if you didn't trust her or him.
Answer by princessbeth79 at 8:46 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
Answer by MrsMWF at 8:46 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
Answer by mommy2mykidz at 8:38 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 8:43 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
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