I will admit that sometimes I am not that easy to get along with, but that being said I love my family and I would do anything for them...
This past year both of my sons met, married their wives and now they are both expecting my first grandchildren ( both girls) ...
At first I wasnt that happy with either of them... *M* has been married twice before and just acts very lazy and has an attitude of " do as i say if you know what is good for you" .. and my other DIl *A* , well her and my son got married ( and pregnant) 6 weeks after meeting.
Like I said they are both pregnant, *A* is due in august and *M* is due in september... *A* has been one of those very happy pregnant women... even though she has had morning sickness 99% of the time, she still puts on a smile... she also considers this baby a celebration of family, and therefore has involved us all in her pregnancy and that means alot... She has invited me ( and her mom ) to her appts, is excited to show us all of her baby things ( which makes me excited lol) , she even asked if I ( and her mom ) wanted to be there with her and my son when the baby is born ... and she has said that she welcomes anyone who wants to come to the hospital who wants to meet the baby...... Besides the pregnancy i can just tell she has a good personality ( hopefully that doesnt change after the baby comes lol ) ... she is just very care free and pleasant, she doesnt make a huge deal or fuss about things... and maybe it is because of her good attitude that makes *M* look like a sore thumb.
*M* has made a list of things she wants for her babyshower and even put on the invites that if it is not on her registry she will return it ... She has said that they will not call anyone when the baby is born but when they get home my son can call to tell us the details and after 2 weeks we can come see her... they wont even tell us her name ( they already have it picked out) .. besides the pregnancy , this is pretty much how she has always acted, we would literally have to make an appointment to come visit ( like we would have to call a week ahead) ... and then once we got there we would feel so uncomfortable and she would hurry us out the door ( with *A* i could show up in my pjs and prop my feet on the table and she wouldnt care...not that i really would, but its just the point of it) ...
Ok so i honestly never planned on liking one more than the other - that was never my intentions... and I actually feel badly because I know when my grandaughters are here, i will most likely be closer with *A*s since I will get to see her more and just have more of a role in her life.... and I hate thinking like that , but as time gets closer I think i should just prepare myself, so I am not heartbroken... but on the other hand, what I am suppose to do, not spend as much time with *A*s , just so it would be even ? ( i dont want to do that) .... what would you do though?
Asked by Anonymous at 10:03 PM on Jun. 28, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by sugamama3 at 10:13 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 10:17 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
Answer by MommaTasha1003 at 10:26 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 10:28 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
I can see why M has been divorced twice already. When the grand babies come, they only thing you can do is give both of your granddaughters the same opportunities (gifts, visits, etc) If M chooses not to allow you to give these opportunities to her daughter then that is on her.
Answer by JeremysMom at 10:40 PM on Jun. 28, 2011
Answer by matobe at 12:06 AM on Jun. 29, 2011
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Answer by LunaB at 3:22 AM on Jun. 29, 2011