My custody court date is in early Jan. My daughter has weekend visitations with her dad. She comes home telling me that he's telling her that she has to go to the judge's chambers & choose where she wants to live. He drills her on what goes on in my home & threatens her with a whoopin if she doesn't tell him. He's using her for "dirt", it seems, for our final court date. She tells him what he wants to know. HELP!!! How do I change this without feeling like we're undercover in my own home?Answer Question
I dont think you should worry unless you have something to hide.. AND IF he is doin these things you need to speak up to your Lawyer because that is not right to scare the child into getting dirt. he is just sooo wrong for doing that.
Answer by ryanlynn at 11:19 PM on Dec. 14, 2008
Answer by micrespo at 11:22 PM on Dec. 14, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 12:37 PM on Dec. 15, 2008
My ex did the same thing with my girls. If you are giving your daughter a stable, healthy environment its no one business if you have a BF Stay the night. Or what goes on in your home! Asking a child about their other home is putting them in a awful place which is harmful to the child.
I would contact your lawyer ask what to do about the constant badgering she is getting from the father.
My girls always told their father and step mom who was always asking what and who came to visit to the house "Nothing and no one but if you like go visit or start paying mom's bills and then you will know!"
Answer by myzero at 3:48 AM on Dec. 19, 2008