I would make sure to love them like my own children, not take anything personally that is said or done personally because they probably have those things merely as defense mechanisms. They are probably still angry and wishing for their mom and dad to be back together secretly and see you as a hindrance to that despite the fact that this wouldn't happen. Honestly, I think that this is a situation where it is going to take a lot of time to heal for these kids... and your persistent loving them and treating them like you care. I don't reccomend just going out and buying them stuff because then they may take that as you trying to "buy them off..." Be fair, loving, and just patient.... that's the best advice that I could give you... They will eventually come around, and even if they don't... at least they will be able to look back at you as being good to them into their adult years... BOL to you!
at 3:47 PM on Jul. 1, 2011