My work gets slow during the summer months so I was get laid off during July and August then go back in September so I get to spend the summer with my children; however my ex-husband recently moved to another state with his girlfriend and their 2 year old daughter. So our new visitation arrangement gives him our two daughters (ages 7 and 5) the entire month of July, I've never been away from my daughters for that long and I'm going to miss them terribly so I started making plans of how to distract myself which included making changes to the house, spending time with friends and family that I haven't seen much of and maybe finding a part time job to make the time go by faster but then last night I was talking to my ex and he invited me to come with the children.
For the most part I get along with my ex and his girlfriend, I've babysat many times for their daughter. Though they are currently staying with her mom since they still haven't found an apartment. While I want nothing more than to be with my children I'm hesitant to go along. For one I'd have to leave my dogs with my mom, she agreed to watch them but I know she doesn't really want to. I'd have to be a strange place which I'm not comfortable with, I wouldn't be able to do my normal routine, I wouldn't be able to get any of my original plans done. Though I do get along with my ex and his girlfriend I've spent time at their previous apartment and after awhile we all get on each other's nerves and either I end up fighting with them or they end up fighting more with each other which is probably more likely now because we'd all be staying at her mom's home which isn't very big and she will also have her other two daughters. My ex wants me to come because he works most days and thinks it would be good for his girlfriend if I can help out since there will be a total of 4 girls between 9 and 2 years old and she is 8 months pregnant.
I know I don't want to be away from my kids that long but in the end it'll be worse for them if they see me miserable and/or fighting with their dad. My past with him hasn't always been civil and when my 7 year old even suspects that her father and I are fighting she gets really upset. My ex wants me to give him an answer by tonight so he plan accordingly; he'll be here Sunday morning but is spending the day at his parents, then that night I'll be babysitting his 2 year old and he'll spend the day at my house so his daughter can visit my family and then he'll be leaving with all the kids Monday night.
Asked by Anonymous at 2:49 PM on Jun. 29, 2011 in General Parenting
So, your ex wants you to come be a free babysitter while he's at work. Maybe I'm just cynical but that's how it sounds to me. Personally, no I would not go. You have already made plans and you probably won't be very comfortable in such close quarters.
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