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do you think gangbangers and kids in general who shoot others or rob or vandalize were ever disciplined at home? i mean seriously where are the parents in this. you know where they are at home doing nothing and the minute their kids get into trouble they want to make excuses for them, instead of disciplining. everyday i hear something on the news about kids robbing someone, killing someone or doing other stuff and getting caught and of course the parents have no clue or don't want to know. my kids aren't perfect but i know where they are at pretty much all the time. and you hate that excuse they give about no father figure, no jobs, poverty. that's crazy because there are plenty of people who had without and grew up fine. what's your take on this? do you agree? or not?


Asked by lucky35 at 3:44 PM on Jun. 29, 2011 in Parenting Debate

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  • Disagree, kids from "perfect" parents turn out this way. There are several factors that contribute to poor behavior other than just lack of discipline.

    Answer by yesmaam at 3:46 PM on Jun. 29, 2011

  • No, social, economic, and cultural situations play a much bigger role in most of those situations. Its easy to judge when you live in better conditions. I was fortunate enough to grow up in decent areas. When parents do not have the means, education, or tools to get themselves and their children out of those areas, many of those kids fall victims to the lifestyles that are prevalent around them.

    Answer by daughteroftruth at 12:44 AM on Jun. 30, 2011

  • It's always easy to blame the parents for a child's poor decisions. Sometimes a parent's lack of parenting is to blame. Sometimes the world's best parents end up with a kid that just makes really bad choices.

    My parents raised two kids. They did nothing different in raising us both. They were good, involved parents that disciplined when they needed to discipline. They instilled values. They stressed the value of education. My brother wasn't the worst behavioral problem around, but he certainly wasn't the poster child for "product of perfect parents." He made bad choices. He did stupid things. It wasn't parenting. It was choice.

    The problem with statements like you're trying to make is that real life is never clear-cut black and white. It is always a shade of grey.

    Answer by ldmrmom at 9:14 AM on Jun. 30, 2011

  • Maybe the parents have no choice but to work 2 and 3 jobs to make ends meet.

    Answer by pookiekins34 at 3:48 PM on Jun. 29, 2011

  • well OP how about environment, need to survive due to lack of money, or lack of available jobs, coming from St. Louis, MO I have seen this i 6 year lds who are so hungry that they steal ad sell drugs to get by even though mom is a good mom working 3 jbs, and trying her best. Not everyone has the opportunities to make ends meet on one job and to live in a place that is free of gangs and drugs! It is sad but really has NOTHNG to do with parenting, it has to do with the level f society an the misfortunes that people live with! Walk a mile in a mothers shoes that works 3 jobs, makes a dinner every night, has to live in the projects and has no man b/c she left him for being abusive... then make an educated opinion....


    Answer by JoLee12345 at 4:19 PM on Jun. 29, 2011