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do you think gangbangers and kids in general who shoot others or rob or vandalize were ever disciplined at home? i mean seriously where are the parents in this. you know where they are at home doing nothing and the minute their kids get into trouble they want to make excuses for them, instead of disciplining. everyday i hear something on the news about kids robbing someone, killing someone or doing other stuff and getting caught and of course the parents have no clue or don't want to know. my kids aren't perfect but i know where they are at pretty much all the time. and you hate that excuse they give about no father figure, no jobs, poverty. that's crazy because there are plenty of people who had without and grew up fine. what's your take on this? do you agree? or not?

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Asked by lucky35 at 3:45 PM on Jun. 29, 2011 in General Parenting

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  • I think most of the kids that grow up like this deal with the "friend" parents that let them get away with anything and the parents dont pay attention to the type of ppl their kids hang around or anything. I didnt grow up with a lot of things or money and i had to work for a lot that i wanted but i didnt kill anyone or rob anyone.. i had VERY strict parents.. i mean yes i make mistakes but nothin that bad.. i think parents outta pay more attention to their kids and who they hang around and all bc the crowd their in is how they will behave as well..

    Answer by carrientravisj1 at 3:50 PM on Jun. 29, 2011

  • I would think that kids who show that type of behavior are influenced from abusive families or from parents who neglect to parent so their children are influenced elsewhere.

    Answer by Gingerwheel at 3:55 PM on Jun. 29, 2011

  • It's more likely abuse, extreme "discipline." As well as multiple experiences & chronic situations that appear on the list of ACE's (Adverse Childhood Experiences) in the huge ongoing study by the Center for Disease Control/Prevention & Kaiser, examining the relationship between childhood experiences (different traumas) and health & behavioral outcomes later on. Categories on the list of ACEs include witnessing/experiencing violence as a child, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, an alcoholic or drug-abusing family member in the home, an incarcerated parent, divorced parents, neglect etc. The more ACEs in a person's individual history, the higher the correlation for all sorts of things, such as struggle/failure in school, violence, crime, prison, divorce, domestic violence (perpetrating or suffering or both), addiction/substance abuse, depression, anxiety, illness (especially chronic inflammatory diseases), mental illness, suicide.

    Answer by girlwithC at 10:23 PM on Jun. 29, 2011

  • People who experienced even one category of ACE are statistically HIGHLY more likely to experience adverse short & long-term problems (as common as higher incidence of illness, anxiety, obesity, smoking, depression) and people who are involved in violent crimes or extreme addictions typically report multiple categories of ACE.
    There is a strong correlation between ACEs & early death, in part because adverse childhood experiences often lead to the adoption of "health risk behaviors" that lead to illness, addiction, & social problems such as crime/violence (all of which increase the risk of early death.)
    Certain childhood experiences are major risk factors (the biggest risk factors) for today's leading causes of illness & death (stuff we usually think of as random illnesses or "genetic") as well as social problems.
    Hurt in childhood-->emotional eating-->obesity-->health problems: hypertension, coronary disease, diabetes

    Answer by girlwithC at 10:47 PM on Jun. 29, 2011

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