Talk to the teachers about it before he starts. I think most good teachers try to encourage the kids to eat because they feel bad if they think the kid is hungry... it's hard for them to realize that it's okay if he skips lunch sometimes (or often) because he will make up for it later. I think there is pressure on them to make sure the kids stay healthy. But if you explain the situation and ask for their help to enforce the same meal-time rules you do at home, they should be willing to work with you. Just be ready for this to be a regular topic. My son is fairly picky too. On days that he's in "school" I provide his lunches, and it took a few months to convince the teachers that it's okay if he didn't want to eat. I keep pointing out that he's energetic and happy and growing well and he really does eat a lot when he's hungry enough, just not every meal and every day. I like that they care enough to be worried about this.
at 10:20 PM on Jun. 29, 2011