Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

4 Bumps


I just saw my husbands facebook and he has a friend wich she has a picture of her in a little black dress and some heals. His comment was... "Nice shoes and the rest even better" How should I take this comment? I dont have my husband as a friend. Am I over reacting? I think She went to the same High school we did.

Answer Question

Asked by Anonymous at 10:33 PM on Jun. 29, 2011 in Relationships

Answers (17)
  • I would definitely be asking some questions!

    Answer by MommyBulger at 10:35 PM on Jun. 29, 2011

  • do you know who this woman is?
    you do not have your own husband as a friend? - why not?

    overreacting - i think NO, you are not

    RED FLAG!!! all over this

    Answer by fiatpax at 10:36 PM on Jun. 29, 2011

  • He's married and doesn't need to be commenting on anyone else's body. Tell him that

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:36 PM on Jun. 29, 2011

  • I dont understand why you dont have your hubby as a friend on your page??? But, that comment is innappropriate. Only you know what kind of a man youre married to though. Is he a flirt....but harmless...with everyone (like my father...LOL), or is this the first time he's done something like this. Either way, I'd be upset. And you needs to let him know that unacceptable.

    Answer by mlmkjw at 10:36 PM on Jun. 29, 2011

  • internet tends to get relationships in trouble. the best is to not dwell on it and be honest with him. remember some guys dont think before they right something like that and us women take things to the extreme sometimes when it has to do with other women. best of luck to what you do.

    Answer by angeleyz375 at 10:37 PM on Jun. 29, 2011

  • Absolutely not! That is no way to talk to anyone other than you, I would definitely talk to him about it.

    Answer by RedDahlia82 at 10:39 PM on Jun. 29, 2011

  • i would think before letting him know that you know about this

    only because IF something is going on- if he knows that oyu know - he will hide better
    i would TRY not to ssay anythign until i had more info
    (now this is coming from a woman who has been cheated on- so take this into account) but this is not ok actions on his part
    lame excues will not be accepted on this one - and he will give you lame ass excuses, might even get mad at you=reverse the blame

    might think about monitoring his computer with a keystroke program
    find out WHAT is going on

    this is NOT acceptable for a married man to be saying this to a """friend""" on facebook

    again=who is this woman-do you know?

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:40 PM on Jun. 29, 2011

  • I would be upset and it would be extremely hard not to question him about it but I agree with anonymous in a sense that if could be nothing, you may just want to sit back to see how this plays out but in the other hand comment inappropriate.


    Answer by LuvmyFam6 at 10:43 PM on Jun. 29, 2011

  • Don't go crazy, remember it is just a comment. Mention it to him and make your judgments based on his reaction, it could just harmless flirting and just men being jackasses like usual. You don't want to go above and beyond and start playing spy over a simple comment and ruin the trust in your marriage. CM can be great but you can also get some pretty shitty advice, so from a women who almost fucked up her marriage playing private detective and analyzing every little harmless detail of everything, calm down and speak to your husband calmly. A comment doesn't change the fact that he is your husband and you love him and he loves you.

    Answer by GomezMami2908 at 10:47 PM on Jun. 29, 2011

  • He may have just been joking around. He married you for you. Don't take it too may get out of hand.

    Answer by Ruthmom802 at 1:10 AM on Jun. 30, 2011

Join CafeMom now to contribute your answer and become part of our community. It's free and takes just a minute.