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Do you serve alcohol at family parties when kids are invited?(also posted in entertainment)

We are a non drinking family but IMO when kids are also invited I think alcohol is wrong,the parents will drink then drive away having their kids in the car. Also alcohol can lead to altercations and that is not something kids should see,once again IMO

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Asked by RobinChristine at 2:38 AM on Jun. 30, 2011 in General Parenting

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  • I dont drink at all! i hate it. and my husband rarely drinks but we always serve alcohol to the adults at the childrens parties. we usually just have our friends who have kids sleep at our house. even if they r not drunk we dont want to wake the kids when they are sleeping. the people who come to our parties and drink usually reserve themselves until after the children have gone to bed. even then our friends know we dont tolerate fighting. u fight u leave.

    Answer by MonkeyMommyNJ at 2:48 AM on Jun. 30, 2011

  • I wouldn't serve alcohol at a children's party, but if it's a party that includes children, I see no reason why not. How is having children there any different from not having them there. I mean, your argument about them potentially driving home drunk is the same whether or not children are there, and as for "witnessing possible altercations"? are you serious?? You'd not serve alcohol in case someone gets into an argument in front of children, but tolerate it when kids are not there?? Seems very weird to me.

    What I'm saying is, whether or not kids are invited, there should be arrangements in place so people are not driving intoxicated and no-one should be fighting - regardless of the presence of kids.

    Answer by judimary at 3:07 AM on Jun. 30, 2011

  • I dont serve alcohol at all,we are a alcohol free family. If a fight altercation started regardless if alcohol was involved I would call police,IMO this is not something kids need to see. I also dont have the room/space to host sleepovers for people that drink too much.I made my life easier by hosting alcohol free events,no BYOB either,

    Comment by RobinChristine (original poster) at 3:14 AM on Jun. 30, 2011

  • I just don't "get" why you put the thing about children being invited into the question. It seems irrelevant to me. You either serve alcohol or you don't. How do the children being there change ir from okay to not okay ?? Drink driving and fighting are not acceptable, period.

    Answer by judimary at 3:23 AM on Jun. 30, 2011

  • No,

    Answer by DeBee13 at 3:59 AM on Jun. 30, 2011

  • We do serve alcohol at parties. I don't see it any differently than a family going out to eat and the parents having 'adult beverages'. Drinking in moderation shouldn't cause altercations.


    Answer by JSD24 at 7:14 AM on Jun. 30, 2011

  • I don't, because my husband and I don't drink alcohol at all, but even if we did I would see no reason to have it at a kid's party. An adult party that included kids maybe but not a five year old's birthday party or anything.


    Answer by Luuckymommy at 7:26 AM on Jun. 30, 2011

  • There is a major difference between having a drink and being drunk. I don't see anything wrong with serving alcohol when kids are present, not even at a kids party. However, if someone drinks too much and acts like an idiot, then they should be asked to leave. I don't think there's ever an excuse for getting drunk, whether kids are present or not. Drunkeness is not okay in any situation.

    Answer by Cavalrybaby02 at 9:44 AM on Jun. 30, 2011

  • Sure, but we're: a) not a family where alcohol leads to altercations, and b) no one is drinking enough that drunk driving is an issue.

    Answer by SWasson at 9:46 AM on Jun. 30, 2011

  • I do not. I really don't see how it's appropriate. That said other relatives do it and my skin crawls. I tend to leave with my kids when the booze comes out.

    Answer by wildflowers25 at 9:48 AM on Jun. 30, 2011

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