My BFF and I are so close, we're practically sisters. Have been since we were wee little ones.. Both of us got pregnant around the same time, in October, and our due dates were one day apart, Me Juy 15th, her the 14th.
She had really really high blood pressure, and had to have her sweet daughter delivered early. Two months early. The baby stayed in NICU for a few weeks, and was let out this past Sunday. Her name was Melanie, the same as my BFF's sister who died in a car accident about 10 years ago. And yesterday, Baby Melanie died as well. They don't know what happened yet. My BFF said she awoke from a nap and the baby wasn't responding, so she called 911 and tried CPR (she's a nurse), and they tried in the ambulance and the hospital, but was soon pronounced. I'm devastated, She wanted a little girl sooo badly, and wanted to honor the sister she loved and lost, and now this. She stayed in a hotel last night with her small son and SO, and I was up talking to her mom around 5am, who stayed in a hotel too, and she said my BFF wouldn't talk to anyone, and was just sitting and staring, rocking back and forth. She's going to be staying with me for a bit, she cannot go back to her house and can't afford hotels forever. Of course I don't mind at all, I love her to pieces, but I'm not sure as to what to do, or say, or what not to say ect.. I'm being induced next Friday..I'm scared she won't want to be around me, and what she going to feel in my house, with my empty baby room and stuff. I'm paranoid myself now, about my baby. I feel like there's no way I can sleep, that I'll just stare at him constantly to make sure he's breathing.. I guess I don't really have just one question, but maybe advice on how to help. Or anything really...Please, I would really appreciate it..
Answer by ChacesMom at 2:00 PM on Jun. 30, 2011
Answer by yesmaam at 10:26 AM on Jun. 30, 2011
It's the hardest thing to grieve the loss of a child - especially one so loved and wanted. Be there for your friend. Follow her lead. We all grieve in different ways.
Answer by JSD24 at 12:07 PM on Jun. 30, 2011
Answer by Camilletnt at 10:49 AM on Jun. 30, 2011
Answer by PANZONSMOM at 11:11 AM on Jun. 30, 2011
Answer by MommyAngel143 at 10:39 AM on Jun. 30, 2011
Answer by JLS2388 at 11:01 AM on Jun. 30, 2011
Answer by ChacesMom at 2:05 PM on Jun. 30, 2011
Answer by cheapsally at 6:02 PM on Jun. 30, 2011
Answer by Taterstots3 at 8:30 AM on Jul. 1, 2011
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