My 13 year old daughter has been invited to her friends Birthday sleepover over winter break. She is begging to go. The problem is about 6 months ago her dad and I made the rule of no sleepovers at friends, because there was incidents in which they were sneaking out, sneaking alcohol, smoking etc, and some parents were not home. We allow her friends to sleep at our house, but we are uneasy about allowing her to go to someone's house we don't know well. I feel like maybe we should let her go to this one, since there will be many friends of hers there and she says its a big deal. My DH says no way and won't budge on the matter. Should we let her just this once? Would it create future problems do you think?
Asked by Anonymous at 10:37 AM on Dec. 15, 2008 in Teens (13-17)
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Answer by krazyash023 at 10:51 AM on Dec. 15, 2008
If you felt like it was a big deal then maybe you could let her go for the day and then pick her up that night. You're not going back on your word as far as "No, sleep overs", but she can spend some time with all her friends.
I believe in discipline. I have two teenagers myself....ages 16 and 18. I do believe that it is a fine balance act of trying not to break their spirits. I have learned in the past that if you take every joy away from them and you don't set a time line as to how long they are going to be punished then they lose sight of hope and will act out regardless. They have nothing to "work towards". So they feel it's useless anyways so why not do what they want.
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