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What happens when your spouse is truly no longer your best friend?

People always say that your spouse should be your best friend (and I am not saying there is another best friend on the horizon or anything like that), but what happens when you really feel that is not the person that is your best friend anymore. Although you will always care for them because you have children together and you don't want to hurt them, do you stay with them because everyone says you are "suppose to" or do you re-evaluate it all and decide what is best for you and your family? Maybe he is even thinking the same thing but unsure how to approach it as well.


Asked by Anonymous at 2:41 PM on Jun. 30, 2011 in Relationships

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  • You become best friends all over again.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:42 PM on Jun. 30, 2011

  • You need to figure out exactly what the problem is.. Do you not trust him anymore, do you no longer feel anything in common, or do you guys just not spend as much time together anymore. Character level issues (trust, dependability, safety, etc.) may be cause for rethinking your relationship, but situation-based issues (not doing enough activities together) can be worked on. He's basically good to you and your children, I wouldn't jump ship. Marriage has it's highs and lows but remember you marry them for the good and bad. Why does he "have" to be your best friend? What are you seeking from him? Does he know it? It's only fair to share what you need from him.

    Answer by hellokittykat at 2:50 PM on Jun. 30, 2011

  • If we get married to our BF that's great but who said we should do that? Some of us are happy with less emotional intimacy with our spouses. Hubby's can still be fab at their 'job' without being our closest friend and confidante. x

    Answer by Womamhood at 3:07 PM on Jun. 30, 2011

  • You can't live your life w/the epectations of others - I mean if they are living your life how would the approach it? and yr hubby doesn't have to be your best friend - where in the books does it state that? Just saying

    Answer by PatriciaofMN at 3:11 PM on Jun. 30, 2011