We have NEVER allowed anyone to drink around our kids. There is some severe alcoholism in our family and out or repect for that I have never had more than one beer at a time in my life. My husband has never even had one beer or drink of any kind. His family also has a history of alcohol abuse and just the idea of booze makes him sick.
We take a lot of flak from the drinking relatives for this, in particular my brother and sister. My brother thinks that nothing is any fun without alcohal, that it completes every event. This attitude scares me with regard to the alcoholism in our family. He has refused to come to my son's 3rd birthday party because we wouldn't let him bring beer.
My sister is another story. She is newly divorced and feels she has the right to have "fun" now. She drinks almost every day and has hangovers the next day. She is also the custodial parent of 3 kids, who call booze the "drink that makes mommy happy". She drinks in front of the kids all the time, and they know that it is the drink that makes her happy at night and grumpy in the morning. They are 3, 4 and 5, and I think that them knowing that is just sad.
We have had parties at our house every year for the beginning of summer vacation. This year (last week, actually) this brother and sister staged an "intervention" with us to explain to us that if we weren't going to allow them the freedom to drink in our home that they were no longer going to come to our parties. We said that it was our home and no one was drinking in front of our kids, and if they didn't want to come, that was fine.
After the party was over, our son who is 3 asked why auntie and uncle didn't come. We said they were busy that day and he asked if they were ever coming to our house again.
What should I say to this sweet little boy who loves his aunt and uncle? We aren't going to bend on this, it is too important to us.....Please help with words of support....Thanks:)
Asked by Anonymous at 3:55 PM on Jun. 30, 2011 in General Parenting
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