So my kids who are 5 and 7 see their dad every other Saturday ( he lives with his parents and has no room for them to spend the night). It seems every time me and my DH buy my kids a present or something special, he tries to take credit for it. Like they told me when they went with him and told him about the new puppy they just got, he said, "oh yeah, me and your mom thought it might be nice, can I get a thank you?" even though he had nothing to do with it. Or for my DD's birthday she got a shopping spree to Justice and when she told her dad about it he said that was her birthday present from the three of us (him, my dh and me), again, didn't even know about it and didn't contribute a penny (we spent over $250), it has been going on since Christmas (where he took credit for the presents we got them). I think he just wants to not look like a deadbeat when he doesn't give them gifts but the problem is, they come home and ask why I didn't tell them the presents were from him too. Right now, I just tell them, no me and Greg bought them for you, he must be thinking about something he bought you (which is hard because he hasn't bought them anything in over a year) I feel so frustrated because we work really hard to give the kids nice things and he comes along and takes credit for them. My ex has only paid one child support check out of the last 6 month so we are also dealing with not getting that help from him. How do I handle this? Do I just explain to them that he doesn't have much money right now to buy them gifts and that's why he tells them these things and they should just not talk about what they get from us? They are seeing through my "he just got confused about what you were talking about bit because again, he hasn't bought them presents in over a year so what would he have gotten them confused with.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 6:34 PM on Jun. 30, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by SWasson at 6:45 PM on Jun. 30, 2011
Answer by Ashleigh_17 at 6:51 PM on Jun. 30, 2011
Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 7:25 PM on Jun. 30, 2011
Answer by daughteroftruth at 9:26 PM on Jun. 30, 2011
Answer by daughteroftruth at 9:28 PM on Jun. 30, 2011
I think doing what is best for the kids is what you should do. The kids don't need to view their dad as a loser they will internalize that and view themselves as one. You need to not make this about you and a bit more about the kids. They will figure out how dad is all on their own in due time.
Answer by Anonymous at 11:34 PM on Jun. 30, 2011
Answer by Austinsmom35 at 5:16 PM on Jul. 1, 2011
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