I've heard about evil stepmothers and evil mother-in-laws, but Carolyn Bourne of Devon, England takes the cake: She's both. When Bourne's stepson Freddie brought his fiance Heidi Withers to meet his family, Heidi soon discovered that her soon to be MIL was a complete biatch. And lucky for us, there's hard evidence.
You see Carolyn, displeased with Heidi's manners during their visit, sent Heidi an email explaining all the ways Heidi messed up during her stay as a guest in Carolyn's home.
Carolyn's words are bone-chilling. She writes:
(Oh, and as if I had to tell you, this should be read aloud, and with a British accent):
It is high time someone explained to you about good manners. Yours are obvious by their absence and I feel sorry for you.
Unfortunately for Freddie, he has fallen in love with you and Freddie being Freddie, I gather it is not easy to reason with him or yet encourage him to consider how he might be able to help you. It may just be possible to get through to you though. I do hope so.
If you want to be accepted by the wider Bourne family I suggest you take some guidance from experts with utmost haste. There are plenty of finishing schools around.
Please, for your own good, for Freddie's sake and for your future involvement with the Bourne family, do something as soon as possible.
Here are a few examples of your lack of manners:
When you are a guest in another's house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat - unless you are positively allergic to something. You do not remark that you do not have enough food. You do not start before everyone else.
You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host.
When a guest in another's house, you do not lie in bed until late morning in households that rise early - you fall in line with house norms.
You should never ever insult the family you are about to join at any time and most definitely not in public. I gather you passed this off as a joke but the reaction in the pub was one of shock, not laughter.
You should have hand-written a card to me. You have never written to thank me when you have stayed.
You regularly draw attention to yourself. Perhaps you should ask yourself why.
No one gets married in a castle unless they own it. It is brash, celebrity style behaviour.
I understand your parents are unable to contribute very much towards the cost of your wedding. (There is nothing wrong with that except that convention is such that one might presume they would have saved over the years for their daughters' marriages.)
If this is the case, it would be most ladylike and gracious to lower your sights and have a modest wedding as befits both your incomes.
Answer by Suzy_Sunshine at 11:37 PM on Jun. 30, 2011
Answer by BeachyBabe at 11:45 PM on Jun. 30, 2011
I read that a few hours ago and I just had to call my MIL and let her know how much I appreciate her. We have had our disagreements but it was nothing compared to this lady. I agree though, that would push me over the edge if I was having any doubts to marrying someone.
Answer by JeremysMom at 11:24 PM on Jun. 30, 2011
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Answer by TARARENEE at 11:34 PM on Jun. 30, 2011
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