My husband and I are on a low budget. We just bought our first home (yay!) and had to get a new car shortly thereafter because ours died (not brand new, used). We feed our 2 kids with food bought with money we work for. I babysit during the day, my husband works full time. We qualify for financial aid, like food stamps, but aren't going to go there.
My sister brings her kids over without having had breakfast and expects us to feed them. She lives free with my parents, has a car her ex's family gave her free, and gets so many food stamps that she sells some of them. She thinks because she is homeless and we have a house that we are rich and she is entitled to show up and get her kids fed by us. We have sent her to the McDonalds down the street four times in a row when her kids have said "I'm hungry!" and told her we can't afford to feed 5 kids, our 2 is enough for us. Every time we have gotten a pissy attitude, then she does the same thing the next time she comes over. We are fed up and refuse to deal with this any longer. We told her if she is coming to our house she needs to bring snacks for her kids, or feed them before she brings them because we are NOT feeding them. But we will continue to feed OUR kids in front of hers, so if that bothers her she can just not come over any more.
Now, she has started a facebook chain of hate against us with the rest of the family. She has been pulling the "poor little homeless me!" routine, and has several relatives running to her side. We dumped our facebook so as not to be bothered by it, but there is a big family cookout coming up and we are worried it will be a big mess, since we haven't been defending ourselves (and who knows what she has been saying?)
Asked by Anonymous at 9:10 AM on Jul. 1, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by SalemWitchChild at 9:13 AM on Jul. 1, 2011
Answer by bloomsr at 9:25 AM on Jul. 1, 2011
I can see both sides here. She definitely shouldn't be taking advantage of you and your family and she NEEDS to feed her own kids. On the other hand, I could not feed my kids and let my nieces/nephews go hungry and watch my kids eat - no matter what point I was trying to make. I hope the situation can be resolved.
Answer by banana-bear at 9:25 AM on Jul. 1, 2011
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Answer by Jeswife44 at 9:41 AM on Jul. 1, 2011
i'm really confused.....if she's getting so many FOODSTAMPS she is selling them (which is ILLEGAL) then why does she have an issue bring food for her kids?......the woman is playing the poor me card and is sounds like it getting old......if she is a mom of 5 then its time to grow up and relieze she need to do for her own family....and as for the rest of the family if anyone mentions it , i would be asking if they've taken her & her children in yet? ......i find once someone is confronted with something the tend to back down.....
Answer by cara124 at 10:01 AM on Jul. 1, 2011