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Will it ever change??

Me and my SO have went over it and over it and over it! Its not changing! I ask him daily to help me out with cleaning, cooking, watching the baby, laundry...anything! he wont!!! Any ideas???

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 2:37 PM on Dec. 15, 2008 in Relationships

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  • Actually im at the same point you are. Ive been with my SO for 3 years now and i have even left twice because i get no help, he still doent help, he doesnt work, he jsut sleeps all day and plays his video game all night!! Its disgusting, i am ready to go, but i dont know where to go and i am too nice, i dont want to hurt his feelings. .. any advice you get, please pass it along.
    Mommy_of_two_85

    Answer by Mommy_of_two_85 at 2:40 PM on Dec. 15, 2008

  • hmm...maybe let all his crap get out of control like his laundrey his dinners etc. That will most likely open his eyes.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:50 PM on Dec. 15, 2008

  • The only reason why my SO helps me is because he's laid off right now and has to be doing something all the time. He only helps me once and a while other than that he's always on the computer, sleeping, or watching t.v. All i did to get him to help me out was give him the guilt trip. I told him i don't understand why he can help his friends all the time but he can't ever help me. I told him it made me feel like crap because he wouldn't help me. I also told him that the house wasn't gonna get cleaned if he didn't start to help me. The next morning when i woke up he was getting ready to do the dishes from dinner. and he picked up all of our son's toys so i could vacuum.
    Happymomma365

    Answer by Happymomma365 at 2:53 PM on Dec. 15, 2008

  • Does he work full time while you stay home with the baby? Or do you both work?
    feesharose

    Answer by feesharose at 2:57 PM on Dec. 15, 2008

  • We both work full time. I acutally work 2 jobs and go to college!!!!!!!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:58 PM on Dec. 15, 2008

  • Yeah, get a new SO!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:29 PM on Dec. 15, 2008

  • Wow if that was the only problems me and my DH had i'd celebrate. Geex people, you ever think you could have it worse than THAT?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:03 PM on Dec. 15, 2008

  • OH I am sure there is worse out there, this is just our MAJOR problem! Wish you could eye witness it, instead of me just typing it!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:07 PM on Dec. 15, 2008

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