Ok so this weekend I finally got to spend some face-time with my long-distance BF. (We met at a wedding a couple months ago and have been on the phone every night since.) I went up to visit him and everything was REALLY GREAT, except for one thing. During the last year of his marriage (he's was recently divorced- I'm the first woman he's been with since then) he developed a bit of an ED problem. His doctor told him it was purely phycological due to issues with his wife (long story) and that it should be better with someone else, but it was still a problem. I tried to be understanding and not make him feel self-conscious about it, and by the end of the weekend (as he got more comfortable/less nervous) it did get a little better. But it still wasn't exactly running smoothly... anyone been in this situation? Or more importantly, anyone have advice on how to help him with it?Answer Question
Answer by Anonymous at 3:27 PM on Dec. 15, 2008
Answer by esr at 3:35 PM on Dec. 15, 2008
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Answer by melody77 at 4:17 PM on Dec. 15, 2008
My husband had an ED problem due to peyronnes disease (cured with large doses of vit E btw). The more it happened the worse it got. Huge snowball effect. He got more upset and worried and it was this vicious cycle. Once the disease was under control, because there was a very real physical issue, it continued to be a problem. By then it was in his head. It took lots of patience. No expectations and lots of love.
I think if you contuinue this relationship as you become more comfortable with one another the problem may work itself out. His ex wife must have been a piece of work Huh. GL.
Answer by Anonymous at 4:54 PM on Dec. 15, 2008
Answer by kathyartist2007 at 6:14 PM on Dec. 15, 2008
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