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Is it possible for a child to be whooped with a belt and not have marks?

My 4 yr old son just came back from visiting his dad and he claims his aunt (his dads sister) whooped him with a belt. she denies itbut i tend to believe my child yes my son does make up stories sometimes, what 4 yr old doesnt? But he gave me a very detailed account of what happened and I do not think a 4 yr old can make up a story like that. the only thing is he doesnt have any marks. Is it possible she smacked him with a belt but did not leave a mark. he says it was on his butt, What can I do about this?

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JrsMommy07

Asked by JrsMommy07 at 10:47 PM on Jul. 1, 2011 in General Parenting

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  • Yeah if he has clothes on the area spanked. Or if he wasn't whipped very hard.
    luvmygrlz

    Answer by luvmygrlz at 10:50 PM on Jul. 1, 2011

  • WTF! Always believe your son! You know the aunt- would she do it? Maybe? I have an almost 4 yr old son and if he said anything like this to me I'd freak out and be wildly upset!
    bloomsr

    Answer by bloomsr at 10:50 PM on Jul. 1, 2011

  • ~*Yes*~... parents have spanked for generations.. probably leading back to cavemen? Yes, a child can be spanked and not have marks... just means they were spanked not beat?

    Not trying to come off as rude, but did you know they spanked before sending child over? I personally know people that spank and I wouldn't leave my kids alone with them to save my life... like my husband's grandparents, they are Old School Itaian, and spank... your child in front of you... so I watch them like a hawk! I don't care if you are 80
    MommaClark3

    Answer by MommaClark3 at 10:50 PM on Jul. 1, 2011

  • If he truly got a whoopin' with a belt, he would have welts. I know from personal experience (on me, not my child!).
    beckie66

    Answer by beckie66 at 10:50 PM on Jul. 1, 2011

  • Yep. Especially if it wasn't bare-butted (over the pants). My parents used the belt, although looking back I think it was more psychological than anything. It made a lot of noise.

    But yes, you can definitely be spanked with a belt and not have any marks.
    Emilita

    Answer by Emilita at 10:51 PM on Jul. 1, 2011

  • I would document it, then tell Dad if she does it again that you will report her. I do not care why she hit/whooped/spanked your child. NO ONE should lay a hand on your child. Go be Momma Bear!
    ochsamom

    Answer by ochsamom at 10:57 PM on Jul. 1, 2011

  • That's some serious matter over there, even if your son was a brat she has no business in spanking him!
    brazilianmumsy

    Answer by brazilianmumsy at 11:02 PM on Jul. 1, 2011

  • yup! my ds gets spanked with one as a very last resort (if talking to, time outs, and reg spanking doesnt work) but it leaves a red mark for maybe 5-10 mins, then gone if not dont very hard.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:13 PM on Jul. 1, 2011

  • I think the most you can do is not have your son alone with her... and protect your son. To answer what you can do...
    MommaClark3

    Answer by MommaClark3 at 11:17 PM on Jul. 1, 2011

  • Oh trust me my son will neber be there again. And to answer the qusetion about knowing if they spanked I told his dad I did not trust his sister and my child was not to be left alone with her at all so I am even more pissed about that. And yes i DO believe my son!
    JrsMommy07

    Comment by JrsMommy07 (original poster) at 11:31 PM on Jul. 1, 2011

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