Hello, my husband whom I used to think was going to be my love forever is divorcing me (but claims he wants to get back together, but I don't) & he very clearly blames me for the divorce. Long story short, he started showing extremely strange, angry behavior (never hit me, but grabbed me, blocked doorways, drove angry even with me in the car, lied about me being abusive towards him, took his wedding ring off & threw it several times once at me, accused me many times of being unfaithful, screamed in my face, called me names) just a few weeks after we found out I was pregnant. I told him to get into anger management. He promised it would never happen again & it got worse & worse. He was not taking initiative to get anger management & I was wearing thin (sometimes, I would stay at my mom's house due to fear & stress.) I told him many times that I would leave the house until he completed anger management if he didn't get into anger management ASAP, with me still living at home. Well, after so many times of staying, I decided that he had touched me for the last time. I decided to move out until he took anger management & until I was able to see that he truly had a grip on his anger towards me (keeping his hands to himself while angry.) Soon afterward, he served me with divorce papers on 5-25-11. Once I heard divorce, our marriage died in my heart... now he is trying to come up with more reasons why our "marriage" is failing & for the first time ever, he is all of the sudden questioning me if our unborn (5 months pregnant) son is his. He is trying to pinpoint/calculate an exact day of when our son was conceived corresponding with my due date, but says we didn't have sex on that day or for a couple of weeks after... how the fudge does he remember the exact dates we had sex back then, anyway? I don't even remember. He says the day he figured that I must have conceived was the only night I went out with a girlfriend to the bar to have ladies night (which he showed up uninvited & unwanted, btw) & we didn't have sex that night... we fought because he accused me of having unfaithful intentions towards other men because I didn't want him to interrupt my girl time. So, basically, he is telling me if I fraggled another guy that night to be "honest." Yes, this is the unfortunate case of my son's father... immaturity at its finest. He thinks he knows how a woman's ovulation cycle works. (He's not a doctor or the least bit interested in knowing how a woman's body works from the inside, in case that ran through your mind. I believe this is a ploy to mess with my head unless he is really this insecure.)
FURTHERMORE: Since I don't have a lawyer yet, I was wondering if anyone knows- Can the court order/force me to have an amniocentesis in Colorado? If so, can I petition against it? I doubt that anyone would be looking forward to having a needle shoved into their abdomen, especially while there are possibilities of fetal injury/risks. This would be a sad, unnecessary procedure for my baby & myself to go through.
Thanks in advance! :)
EDIT: After I replied to him, by saying "wow," I received an e-mail from him saying, "Please call me as soon as you can. I shouldnt have brought that up, i overstepped my boundries... just please call me." Oooh my. What am I to do?Answer Question
i dont know but most places will not do that they just wait till the baby is born then do a dna test .and maybe it is a good thing that he dont think it is his so maybe you can move on with your life with out him in it ,i know that sounds mean but if he is that bad with you just think what he would be like with a baby .good luck ill be praying for you !!
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